Matthew Kurz - Updates & Prayers

Update - Easter Sunday 4/24/11

2011-04-24T20:05:00.000-07:00

Joyous news to share - Matthew walked into church this morning with his family, walked to the 5th pew from the front, stood with the rest of the congregation at the appropriate times, and walked to communion with his family. In addition to this miraculous sight for the congregation to behold, Matthew's grandmother who hasn't been able to walk for months because of foot surgery, also walked to communion.

Thank the Lord for the many blessings in Matthew's journey of healing.

Blessed Easter to all of you!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 3/5/11

2011-03-05T14:25:00.000-08:00

Five years later and Matthew continues to improve!!! God is good!!!!

Matthew is now RUNNING in the water during water therapy. Who could have imagined that could happen when several years ago he was stuck in his chair and hardly spoke? His mother certainly did imagine it and she has never stopped believing in all the wonderful possibilities for Matthew!

A couple weeks ago Matthew walked from the bathroom in their house to his recliner. And he did it without holding onto anyone - only used his claw-footed cane. He reached out for his mom to offer her hand for him to grab onto and she said "you don't need me" so he kept going on his own.

Matthew also continues to make strides in his mental thought processes. He is beginning to think through things and figure out what to say rather than have to be prompted to figure out what he wants or give up and say "oh, whatever." He's also describing what he thinks and what he sees. This is such a beautiful accomplishment! It's great to begin to tap into what's going on in his mind.

Have a blessed day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - January 25, 2011

2011-01-25T14:40:00.000-08:00

Five years ago today Matthew and Andrew survived the car accident that changed both of their lives. We are so thankful that God blessed us with the continued joys of being touched by Matthew and Andrew's presence in our lives.

Andrew is looking forward to continued education in therapy. We are so very proud of him!

Matthew is in the wheelchair LESS and LESS all the time!!! Recently he spent the whole day OUT of the wheelchair and WALKED into the nursing homes to visit both his grandfather and grandmother.

Right before Christmas we were thrilled with more "firsts" in Matthew's continued progress. For the first time since the accident, he walked into our house (his godparents) and he didn't use his wheelchair the whole weekend while in our house. The wheelchair sat in a corner while Matthew manuevered through our house on his own two feet throughout the weekend and he even took the stairs down out of the house to go to church on Sunday morning.

This "trip" to church involved walking across the parking lot from our house to the church, rode the elevator down to the basement, walked across a long room in the church basement to get to the Bible class room and then Matthew attended his godfather's Bible class for the first time in more than five years. THEN he walked UP the stairs and into the church and was present for the special occasion of the recognition of this godfather's 20th anniversary of ordination. It was a beautiful thing to watch Matthew walk into the sanctuary and listen with rapt attention to the sermon. He also insisted on standing and sitting throughout the service like the rest of the congregation.

Thank you, Lord for your many blessings to Matthew and his family and for Matthew's continued progress and improvement.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 11/04/10

2010-11-04T20:01:00.000-07:00

Another first for Matthew - on Sunday, Matthew walked INTO CHURCH with his cane and then all the way down toward the front of the church and sat in the church pew - NO WHEELCHAIR!

Then another first - later in the day Matthew attended a Reformation service with his family. Again he sat in the pew rather than in his wheelchair. Following the service, Matthew walked to the elevator, headed downstairs for the dinner and then insisted on sitting on a regular chair like everyone else. Those folding metal chairs are not easy for Matthew to get into, but he did it!

It's exciting that Matthew is using the wheelchair less and less when he's out and about!

Update - 10/3/10

2010-10-03T19:02:00.000-07:00

It was very exciting to witness Matthew walking down the road to the finish line at the Missouri Brain Injury Association Walk-a-thon "Journey for Hope" in September! Matthew had friends and family cheering him on as he walked with a cane and his therapist, Paul, was by his side. The cheerleaders at the finish line certainly got Matthew's attention (and maybe were a little bit of a distraction - but he kept going). Then everyone cheered Matthew's friend, Chris as he too got out of his wheelchair and walked across the finish line.

Thanks to all who supported the walk-a-thon!

Later that afternoon Matthew's first art show was held at St. Paul Lutheran Church and School. As guests viewed Matthew's art completed from his art class at State Farm Community College, they were serenaded by a violin and piano duet. Here's one example of Matthew's artwork.

Recently Matthew had a "miracle day." He was with his mother helping Grandma celebrate her birthday. He rode in the car - NOT in the wheelchair but in the front passenger seat. He got out of the car and WALKED into the restaurant where they had lunch. Matthew sat in a REGULAR chair during the meal, then walked out the the restaurant and got back in the car! THEN, later while their car was being serviced in Sedalia, Matthew and his mother got to go for a ride in a convertible - with the top down! It was a banner day for Matthew.

Update - 9/3/10

2010-09-03T20:20:00.000-07:00

Exciting, exciting... Here's a few snippets of what Matthew is up to:

Matthew now walks the length of the pool WITHOUT any assistance!

Recently in church Matthew initiated ON HIS OWN to stand up when the rest of the congregation stood up. He said "I think I need to stand up now!" And he did it more than once during the church service. He stood tall and strong.

In two weeks, Matthew will have an art show of his pieces of work. This art show will be in connection with the "Journey of Hope" walk-a-thon. Please join us for this fundraiser for Brain Injury Association of Missouri on September 18 in Sedalia, MO. For more information or to register for the walk-a-thon go to the following link:

www.journeyforhope.com

Update - 5/7/10

2010-05-07T10:56:00.000-07:00

Matthew is going to college!!!!!! Matthew will take an art class this summer at State Fair Community College in Sedalia, Missouri. This is a major step forward in his progress! Matthew is so excited!

Matthew is also very excited that his brother, Andrew is coming home from college soon. Mom will certainly appreciate the additional hands to help caring for Matthew since she is also busy caring for her mother who is in poor health. Please keep Brenda in your prayers as she juggles a "million" different hats!

One more bit of good news for Matthew - he no longer is in a hospital bed in his bedroom at home. He now sleeps in a regular bed!

Hope you are enjoying beautiful spring weather wherever you are!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 2/22/10

2010-02-22T14:22:00.000-08:00

Even though I haven't been keeping up with updating Matthew's blog on a regular basis, you can be assured that Matthew is doing well and continues to progress.

Last week Matthew shook hands with Missouri Governor Nixon and had his picture taken with the governor. The occasion for this important event was the signing of a proclamation for the recognition of Brain Injury Awareness week in Missouri during the first week in March. There were several representatives from different agencies there for the occasion, but Matthew and his family were the only ones attending that were living and dealing with brain injury. Apparently everyone seemed stiff and uncomfortable as they took their turn greeting the governor for a few seconds, but Matthew broke the tension when the governor stood with him for the picture and asked Matthew if everything was alright. Matthew turned to him and said, "your tie is crooked," and then after that was fixed, he said the governor should fix his jacket. Then the governor asked if that was better, and Matthew said "Oh yeah, you look good now." Leave to Matthew to make everyone at ease and laugh with the governor.

The most exciting news we can share with you that has occurred in the last few months is Matthew walked at Christmas with his cane up the altar rail for communion for the first time ever. He was so thrilled (as was his family and all those in church that day) and when he turned around to go back to his seat, he smiled and gave a big thumbs up to everyone. His walking continues to get stronger all the time. He still has to work on his balance, but with time as the brain continues to heal, that should improve.

Matthew is engaging in conversation on his own more and more. This is a huge step and shows evidence that the frontal lobes of his brain are healing.

Matthew received a wonderful gift of a year's worth of water therapy! This is worth so much because Matthew shows so much progress has been as a result of water therapy. He can now walk down into the pool and walk out using his cane and with assistance from his therapist. He can also walk around the sides of the pool without the cane. He used to put his arms out to balance himself, but he now does a much better job of balancing with his hips.

Another terrific gift that Matthew received is custom-made therapy steps that have handles made just for Matthew to practice going up and down steps. When the weather warms up, he will be using this on a regular basis.

A friend of the family found a drafting table for Matthew and he can drive his wheelchair up to the table and does so several times a day to draw. Matthew used to say, "I don't know what to draw," but now he is coming up with ideas of his own. His attention to detail is improving and he draws all sorts of things from cartoons to stills. Matthew got to go shopping for art supplies with a gift card and he now likes to used colored pens. His eyes can focus better and the color is easier for him to see.

Another blessing is Matthew is using his right hand more naturally for things such as holding his plate, getting dressed, pushing buttons, etc. He now uses his right hand without thinking when before he used to say "I can't do it." He also reaches out with his right hand more often.

Hope your 2010 is off to a good start.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 10/5/09

2009-10-05T12:11:00.001-07:00

Matthew has been home a while and is doing very well!!! His stitches will be removed on Tuesday and so far the incision is healing well. His bout with pneumonia at the hospital was short lived. With previous hospital stays Matthew often "takes a few steps backwards" in his progress with therapy, but this time Matthew continues to make great strides and improvement. Soon he will be able to do water therapy again - which is always a big plus! Amazingly Matthew will now ask to get up and walk - whereas he used to have to be coerced to stand and take steps.

Usually Matthew needs assistance to move from his NuStep machine to his wheelchair, but a few days ago he did it ALL by himself and even got himself situated well in his chair (which is not easy to do for such a big guy as he is). His mother stepped away for a moment and told him she would help him when she got back. When she returned maybe 30 seconds later Matthew had made the transition from one to the other and sat there looking at her so non-chalant.

For the first time in 3 years and 8 months, Matthew has called out to his mother by name! You anxiously await for your child to say "momma" or "dada" when they are little, but can you imagine waiting over 3 years for your son whose voice has been silenced and thought processes interrupted because of his brain injury to call out "Mom"? It's incredible! Brenda said when prompted Matthew has been able for quite some time to indicate who she is and who other members of the family are, but this is the first time he has tried to get her attention by saying, "Mom, I need..."

Matthew is making major improvements with his drawing skill. The size and proportions are much closer to accurate dimensions and the quality and detail of his pictures are improving. The artist in him continues to blossom!

Hope you are having a wonderful fall!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 9/17/09

2009-09-18T12:35:00.000-07:00

Well, the bad news is that Matthew has to have surgery on Monday, Sept. 21st. The doctors will be cutting out the portion of his stomach where the feeding tube used to be and then will staple the opening in his stomach closed. He will be hospitalized for several days and be on a very bland diet. There is concern that the shunt from Matthew's brain to his stomach could be disturbed, but we pray all will go well.

The good news is that the blood work came back with excellent results. Matthew is healthier than they ever anticipated for a brain injury victim.

Tomorrow (Sat., Sept. 19) is the walk-a-thon in Sedalia for the Brain Injury Association. If you have registered for this event - hope you have a WONDERFUL time and please find Matthew and greet him. He loves to smile and laugh with people!

God be with you!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 9/2/09

2009-09-02T07:44:00.000-07:00

Good news - Matthew is home and did not have to spend the night in the hospital. The rest of the news is uncertain. Tests will be run on Matthew's blood to see if there is anything missing in his system that impedes his healing process. It took 10 months for the hole in Matthew's stomach to heal the first time around and it should have only taken hours. So, now the doctor is working to find out what caused the hole to reopen. At this time, they are not concerned about an infection.

Please continue to keep Matthew and his family in your prayers, especially his mother is burning the candle at both ends to care for Matthew 24/7.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 9/1/09

2009-09-01T09:07:00.000-07:00

Prayers requested!

Matthew has been rushed to the hospital in Columbia. His wound that healed from his feeding tube has re-opened and there are indications of an infection inside.

Please keep Matthew and the family in your prayers.

Rachel

Update - 7/13/09

2009-07-13T16:55:00.000-07:00

Yes, believe it or not, you are reading a current update to Matthew's blog! Thanks for your patience and your continued interest in Matthew's progress. We've decided to provide updates every three months, so please check back by mid-October for the next update.

We praise God for all that has happened for Matthew in the last four months. His perseverance and improvement continue to amaze us. Matthew attended camp again this year (in May) and REALLY enjoyed it again! Counselors and leaders at the camp who were there last year commented on the tremendous improvement they saw in Matthew from last year. Once again Matthew had the girls wrapped around his little finger and had everyone laughing. This year Matthew was assigned a helper who is also a victim of brain injury as well as a med tech, but this helper is a little farther down the road in his recovery than Matthew is. He knew what Matthew is going through and they had some terrific conversations that meant a lot to Matthew.

So, here's a detailing of Matthew's most recent improvements/accomplishments:

- When getting ready to use the parallel bars a few days ago, Andrew and Brenda left for a moment and when they came back they found Matthew standing up ALL BY HIMSELF at the bars and ready to go. He had never done that before! Matthew can walk back and forth between the parallel bars several times by himself, but still needs assistance in turning around.

- Matthew walked around the pool two times recently by himself just holding onto the side. The therapist used to have to stand in front of him and help him with the spacing of the step with his right leg, but recently Matthew hasn't needed much assistance. He is able to control his limbs to a great extent. In the pool Matthew can balance himself standing without holding onto anything or anyone for six minutes and outside of the pool he can do it for two minutes without assistance.

- Spelling! Matthew can spell short words out loud! It's great!!! He's also reading more - reads the signs along the side of the road.

- Labeling properly!! Instead of saying "him" and "her" for every male and female, Matthew is beginning to refer to the people by their names in regular conversation without prompting. He is identifying, initiating, and reasoning on his own without prompting. This shows continued healing in the frontal lobe of his brain.

- Matthew is more self-aware. He has recently asked "What happened to me?" In an update some time ago I believe we mentioned him talking with his mom about the accident, but this time it seems he is remembering more and is more aware of the reality around him.

- Naming! Andrew is Matthew's assistant/therapist-in-training this summer and he has been working with Matthew (besides the physical therapy) with speech therapy. Matthew is now able to name something blue (or other colors), or name a fruit or vegetable consistently. Previously it was a struggle and he would say anything just to answer. Now he's able to do it on his own and do it correctly. He can't come up with more than 4 or 5 things per question, but he can do it!!

- Now what?! Matthew's morning routine (AND his mom's morning routine) is to exercise with the NuStep, walk with the gait trainer, and do the parallel bars EVERY day (plus other activities). In the past, Matthew would be exhausted later in the day after all that activity and was content to sit and do nothing. Now Matthew asks, "So what else can I do?" and will ask this repeatedly when he finishes the activity put before him.

Many months ago we mentioned a walk-a-thon scheduled for this September to support brain injury victims. Well, the event is planned and everything is in place! "Journey for Hope" is the event and the Brain Injury Awareness Walk and 5K Run will be Saturday, September 19, 2009 at 9:30 a.m. in Sedalia, Missouri at the Mathewson Center in the Missouri State Fairgrounds. Registration begins at 8:00 a.m. The fee to attend and participate is only $20 and with that each registrant will receive a t-shirt, lunch and an expo ticket. All proceeds from "Journey for Hope" will stay in Missouri to fund support groups, education and advocacy outreach provided by the Brain Injury Association of Missouri, as well as wheelchair ramps and home modifications provided by the Centers for Independent Living. If you are unable to attend in person, your contribution is appreciated. All information for contributions and/or registration (for individuals or for teams!) can be found at www.journeyforhope.com. Please join us for an exciting and uplifting day to help Missourians affected by brain injuries achieve greater strides of their own. (Thanks to the "Journey for Hope" web site and brochure for the information and verbage above.)

On a personal note, my husband and I (and our two teens) have been able to see Matthew's progress first hand this spring and summer which has been a great blessing. In March Matthew came with his mother and brothers to see our daughter and son perform/direct the lights and sound in their school's Shakespeare play. This was a real treat! And then in May the family came back for our daughter's high school graduation party. It was a long trip for Matthew and he gets stiff sitting for so long in his chair, but he did get up and walk and stand some while at the party. He also exerted a little effort to arm wrestle with his brother, Andrew and his "Uncle" Randy. His left arm is VERY strong!! And this past weekend we saw Matthew again. Our son spent the week with Matthew's family and we met halfway to get him back. Matthew's ability to speak has grown exponentially in just those two months! He is engaged in the conversations and responds appropriately (most of the time) and makes all of us laugh with his jokes!!! One thing that hasn't changed is Matthew's interest in cars. He wanted us to turn around and spot all the sports cars that he really liked that were driving by.

God be with you this day and hope you are having a safe summer!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 3/28/09

2009-03-28T18:44:00.000-07:00

More good news about walking!!!! Matthew has been using his gait trainer and it has made a dramatic different in his ability to walk. The ankle straps help keep his feet evenly spaced apart, helping to retrain his brain to walk properly. This assists Matthew in NOT crossing his left foot over his right. And the phenomenal result is that this past Wednesday he walked over 620 feet with no one touching him or assisting in any way, other than to walk along side him. This is absolutely beautiful!!!!! Earlier this month I saw Matthew walk 30 or more feet and it was a challenge, struggle and took a great deal of effort to put each foot straight ahead for the step. Walking over 620 feet is incredible!!

There’s a wonderful story to tell you about Matthew’s progress with using the gait trainer. A couple weeks ago, Matthew saw a red sports car parked down the street from the Kurz’ house. He was determined to go down and touch that car. So, off he walked with a couple family members in attendance. The red sports car belonged to a visitor in a neighbor’s house. This visitor was asked if Matthew could touch the car when he got there. The visitor was so kind and offered instead for Matthew and his mom to go for a ride in the car. If you know anything about Matthew’s interest in cars, you’ll be able to guess that this was quite a thrill for him!!!!

One more milestone in Matthew’s walking is with the parallel bars in the family’s garage. Matthew can now walk down and turn around completely all by himself and walk back where he came from. His trainer or his family member only walks in front of Matthew as a precaution, but Matthew does all the work.

Matthew’s doctor is very pleased with the healing going on in Matthew’s brain. His right frontal lobe has healed a great deal and still continues to heal. This is evidenced by even more initiating of ideas, wants and dislikes by Matthew. It used to be that Matthew was say “whatever” if there was something he didn’t like. But now he tells his family, “I don’t like that, don’t ever give that to me again.”

Matthew’s confidence in his own abilities and strength continue to increase. He’s not afraid to try certain things, where before he had to be encouraged and urged before anyone could get him to do things. He also corrects his own balance without being instructed to do so.

In speech therapy, Matthew is able to focus on four commands to follow through when given verbal instructions. This is wonderful!!! Also, Matthew is reading out loud and silently very well. He doesn’t need as much prompting to figure out the words and will stop and correct himself when he knows he got it wrong. He is also doing very well with math problems.

Matthew is still doing very well with drawing. He continues to add to his drawing book and shows improvement with his pictures in his attention to detail, space and design.

And last but not least, the water therapy continues to be a great blessing and has such great benefits for Matthew’s right side. At his most recent session, he was able to stand in the middle of the pool for 8 seconds without holding onto anything or anyone.

A blessed Lententide to all of you and as we approach April, I pray you have a blessed Holy Week and joyful Easter.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - News Report - 3/4/09

2009-03-05T09:29:00.000-08:00

Matthew is in the news! A group gathered in Jefferson City, Missouri at the capital to make an appeal regarding legislation for brain injury victims. Matthew is featured in the news article by KOMU TV station. Here's the link to read that story:

http://www.komu.com/satellite/SatelliteRender/KOMU.com/ba8a4513-c0a8-2f11-0063-9bd94c70b769/d3096d12-80ce-0971-00a3-7b2a94ace659

If you have trouble with this link at all, go to KOMU.com. Click the button on the far left along the top that says "News" and then click "Story Archives." The news story was shared on March 4, 2009: "Legislation for Brain Injury Victims."

Please note that the date of the "Journey for Hope" project is listed incorrectly in the text of the article. The correct date is September 19, 2009 (not 2008).

Have a great day!
Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 2/26/09

2009-02-26T17:21:00.000-08:00

Greetings! Are you as anxious for spring as I am? I know Matthew is! He is looking forward to being outside much more. Matthew loves the outdoors. There's also hope that Matthew will be able to help his mother plant some flowers or tomato plants and help take care of them.

If you have re-read previous posts, I've mentioned many times that Matthew has been walking and doing so much better with balance. But each time I post that message, there is a new nuance to Matthew's abilities with walking. Those nuances may be minor for us, but they are major for Matthew. Just a few days ago, Matthew pulled himself up out of his chair ALL BY HIMSELF and walked four steps all on his own. That is TREMENDOUS!!! When he completed that, Matthew said "Boy, that was hard!" It is a lot of work for Matthew, but he continues to improve and do a little more each time. It used to be when Matthew got up out of his wheelchair, he could be described as standing up like an old man. Now he stands up just like you or me with strength and good balance.

The water therapy is incredibly helpful for Matthew. He can walk in the water 8 steps or so using his cane, and all by himself with no one hold onto him or assisting him. This has been a wonderful therapy for Matthew and has made a great difference in "waking up" the communication between Matthew's brain and his right side.

A few weeks ago Matthew got new glasses. His eyesight is so good that he no longer needs the large print bulletin at church. He can read the regular bulletin just fine.

In the last blog I mentioned that Matthew would soon have an email address. I'm sorry to tell you that is delayed a little longer. Hopefully by the next posting I'll be able to share his email address with you.

Blessed Lententide to you all!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 1/25/09

2009-01-25T20:05:00.001-08:00

Today is the third anniversary following Matthew's car accident and he still continues to improve in leaps and bounds!!!! We have so much to be thankful for! God is good!!!!

Two weeks ago Matthew saw his optometrist and the report was great! His eyes have completely healed. His right eye is tracking appropriately and he's reading everything well without needing prompting. Head trauma victims often have to wear sunglasses because the pupil won't dilate correctly for the light coming in, but Matthew does not have that problem and his pupils respond just as they should.

Matthew has been drawing a great deal. He's paying close attention to details. Dick Liebermann, an artist who has been assisting Matthew with drawing, met up with Matthew recently after two months. Matthew had a big stack of drawings to show him and Dick was really impressed with the detail and expressions on the faces of the people Matthew drew. When he draws himself, he uses happy expressions. Great sign! Also, Matthew and his family went to an art studio in Columbia that uses art for rehab and therapy. Some of the artists there had seen Matthew's artwork before the accident, and when shown his current artwork they were impressed and said Matthew still shows great potential, showing attention to detail and showing great ability with design.

Standing and walking - more improvement. Matthew can stand up out of his chair without assistance, grab hold of his walker and take a few steps (six or so) without guidance or assistance. In the garage, the Kurz's have parallel bars. Matthew walked back and forth on the parallel bars four times, turn around to repeat the process again and again. He had never done that before. This past Thursday, Matthew walked 35 feet with his walker by himself (and only the aids standing by just in case). Another monumental day! After February 1st, Matthew should be getting a gait trainer, which we pray helps take the weight off of Mom and help Matthew walk more and more on his own.

The water therapy has been a wonderful activity for Matthew and brought about major improvement. Matthew can float completely by himself and he is putting his right hand in the water and moving it around in ways that he hasn't been able to do out of the water. Matthew was asked to do the scissor kick and he did it the first time without any trouble.

In our last post, we mentioned that Andrew was Matthew's personal assistance over Christmas break. This was excellent for both Matthew and Andrew. Matthew responded so well to Andrew and did almost anything Andrew told him to do. One activity they did together was play ping pong. Matthew is quite good and with his left hand his "killed" Andrew in several games. Then he surprised everyone by playing with his right hand. Matthew has difficulty moving his wrist side to side and up and down, but playing ping pong, he made the effort to move his wrist.

Very soon Matthew's computer should be set up. In the next blog look for Matthew's email address. Sending Matthew an email will be a tremendous help for him to build initiative in how to speak and reply.

Stay warm!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 12/22/08

2008-12-22T19:39:00.000-08:00

Matthew has recently undertaken the challenge of trying to walk with a reed cane, as a regular walker has become a little difficult for him to use. Matthew is just plain too tall for the regular walkers, because they are not made for someone 6 feet tall or taller. Nonetheless, a friend of the Kurz family welded an additional seven inches onto the legs of a walker, and now Matthew also has a very stable and wide base in a regular walker.

Matthew can also now stand for seven minutes straight and holds his balance quite well without any assistance. No doubt this comes from the exercises in which he would stand, with some assistance, and then do knee bends (as shown here from Thanksgiving Day, standing and working with Dad's support and coaching).

The Nu Step exercise machine has helped Matthew strengthen his right leg quite a bit. He works on the machine for one hour twice a day. His right leg has strengthened so much that he can lift his right foot up a step. And some thought he would not be able to do that.

Some also thought that Matthew would be able to walk only with the help of leg braces, but lately he seems to walk better without them.

Every day Matthew draws four or more pictures and with increasing detail. He does very well with black and white pictures, and he mostly uses his left hand (great news for his dad and his godfather, who are lefties!). However, Matthew is also regaining use of his right hand. He cut his pancake for the first time with his right hand and without the brace on his right hand. More and more Matthew extends his right arm on his own. His tense muscle tone also seem to be relaxing.

Matthew initiates his thoughts and expresses his wants. For example, when Mom went in to get him up one morning, Matthew asked her, without prompting, "So how are you feeling today?" Matthew also loves to take part in joking and laughing. Brenda says that he is becoming more relaxed with his condition and accepting of it. He also wants to understand what he's doing and why, such as when he must take his vitamins or when he must go some where.

Matthew has also started to pick up the paper and read it, reading more than just the comic pages and doing more than just looking at the pictures of pretty girls ("Yeah, baby!").

Matthew's brother, Andrew, has decided that he wants to become an occupational therapist after college. While he is home for his six-week break from college, Andrew intends to work with Matthew as a "personal assistant." Matthew and Andrew have always had a close bond, and in his new condition Matthew still responds very well to Andrew. So as Matthew's "personal assistant" (therapist in training?) Andrew plans to challenge Matthew in his exercises and activities.

Recently Matthew went to a Christmas party at the home of one of his therapists. But there was one problem: three steps to get into the house. Mom offered to go inside and get some strong men to help carry Matthew in, but Matthew had a different idea. He insisted on walking into the house, up the three steps, on his own steam, and that he did with his own determination, lifting his right leg himself and walking into the house. When he sets his mind to do something, he makes great accomplishments.

After Christmas Matthew will begin water therapy. We are hoping that this will aide him even more in improving his ability to walk and gain strength.

As we prepare to celebrate the Incarnation and Birth of our Lord Jesus Christ on Christmas, we also extend to you many thanks from the Kurz family for all of your prayers and support through this past year. Our Savior Jesus Christ, the Son of God, took on our human flesh and blood to restore us to life with God and to restore our full humanity that has been so ravaged by sin and death. Matthew's journey of healing and recovering his various abilities is a good picture of what our Lord Jesus has begun in us--being restored to the image of God. Just as Matthew continues to grow again in his abilities, we also, by God's boundless and undeserved grace, continue to grow in the life that our Savior has won for us on the cross and gives to us in His Church.

So, we all wish you a very blessed and joyous Christmas, and we thank you for your continued support for Matthew as he continues his journey of healing and hope.

Randy Asburry
Matthew's Godfather

Update - 11/19/08

2008-11-19T09:15:00.000-08:00

Matthew has a new physical therapist, Paul Chang. Paul doesn't let Matthew slack or get off easy, and Matthew is actually responding very well to the strong, assertive therapist. Matthew will now get himself up out of his wheelchair, walk between the parallel bars by himself and doesn't get distracted or stop after a step or two. He recently made it six steps at a time and repeated that three times!

Matthew is also "blowing away" the speech therapist and his parents. He can now read out loud a 12 word sentence without any problem at all and looks up with that look on his face, "is that all you have for me?" The Kurz family has a picture on their wall with scripture on it and Matthew rolled up to it and read the words "Be still and know that I am God." He then responded with his characteristic, "Ohhhhhhh yeahhhhhhh." If you have ever talked to Matthew, you know how he can say this with lots of enthusiasm and emphasis!

Last week Matthew was evaluated for a new larger computer screen, keyboard and program. The computer screen he currently has is difficult for him to see, so the larger screen will really be helpful. The new keyboard has white keys that are very large and the letters on the keys are in black. This also helps Matthew tremendously with being able to read the keyboard. He was asked to spell out his name and then "Have a nice day" on the keyboard and he did it without any problem.

Matthew remembers alot about navigating around the computer, how to turn it on, etc. The new program will help him write sentences. Matthew can type a sentence in and then the computer will repeat it back to him and then Matthew will know if he got it right.

Art lessons have begun! Matthew is learning from Lucas Richardson (an art student studying to be an art teacher). It has been a great beginning for Matthew and he loves the color. He especially likes painting with the tubes of acrylic paint. I'm sure we'll have lots more to share in the future about Matthew and painting. He still has a great passion for painting.

Have a blessed Thanksgiving!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 10/30/08

2008-10-30T18:35:00.000-07:00

Matthew gave a "thumbs up" in his picture on the front page of the 10/23/08 issue of the Sedalia Democrat. The article tells the story of Matthew receiving the Brain Injury Association of Missouri's Courage Award. Terri Marr is quoted as to why she nominated Matthew for the award: "just because of where he began and how fast he's progressed. He's made vast improvements. He has such a great sense of humor, every day." The picture above is another picture taken the evening of the award ceremony. Matthew stands, surrounded by his family.

The following link will connect to the article right above Matthew's article which tells the story of people in the Sedalia community becoming acquainted with rhythmic therapy, including Matthew.

http://www.sedaliademocrat.com/news/heether_12241___article.html/participants_peterson.html

Update - 10/13/08

2008-10-13T08:44:00.000-07:00

On Friday, October 3rd, Matthew received the "Courage Award" from the Brain Injury Association of Missouri at the banquet held at the Embassy Suites in St. Charles, Missouri. Matthew and the whole family were very honored for him to receive this award, and as his parents said, they continue to be thankful for opportunities to share their message of HOPE to all dealing with brain trauma (in all ways that trauma can occur). Thanks to Terri Marr, the director of Bridges in Sedalia, MO for nominating Matthew for the award.

Matthew soaked up all the attention that evening and following the presentation, he willingly smiled for pictures (LOTS of pictures) and gave his "thumbs up" sign regularly. He was a great sport and joked with all the people pulling out their cameras. His positive attitude and big smile were contagious and it was a lot of fun for all of us to be there to witness this special evening. All three of Matthew's brothers were present with him and his parents, as well as Andrew's girlfriend, Emily, Matthew's godparents (yes, that's me and my husband, Randy) and his cousin, Jonathan.

As Matthew stood for a few of the pictures and towered over his parents in height, we were in awe of how such a simple thing for most of us to do (to stand) was such an incredible accomplishment for Matthew. Check back to this blog this coming weekend. I hope to have a picture posted here that was taken following the ceremony. The picture is of the whole family with Matthew and long-time supporter and friend, Marsha Turvolv joins the group picture.

Praise be to God for all his blessings!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 9/27/08

2008-09-27T14:11:00.001-07:00

INCREDIBLE NEWS!!!!

Matthew is to be awarded the Courage Award from the Brain Injury Association of Missouri!!!! He will receive this award at a dinner in St. Charles, Missouri at the Embassy Suites Hotel. His family will be with him as he receives this award (including his godparents and cousin). It is certainly well-deserved. Matthew has fought so hard to continue to make improvements and continues to fight!!!!

We are so thankful that Matthew continues to regain strength and mobility with his right arm and right leg. It is amazing to see him move his right leg and right arm on his own without any assistance. What a major accomplishment!

In my last update I discussed Matthew initiating conversation and sentences. Well, that continues, as well as Matthew giving commands to those around him. Recently he was asked by his Dad if he wanted the light turned off in his bedroom, and Matthew replied, "Eventually I will want it off, but not now." Now, some of you might think, "what's the big deal about him saying that?" Well, the words he used show a more advanced language choice as well as skill in using appropriately. That is amazing considering how little Matthew was saying just a year ago or even a couple months ago.

If you haven't seen the post that directly precedes this one, please make sure to read that. There is a great deal of new information that shows Matthew continued progress and discusses the exercise machine he is using that we believe is contributing his so much of his recent improvements.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 9/16/08

2008-09-16T19:28:00.000-07:00

Several weeks ago Matthew began exercising with the NuStep exercise machine. In just a few days, improvements could be seen. Matthew began showing more and more independence and more stability in his physical movements, as well as improvements in his speech. He was able to state what he needed to do to get from point A to point B and then did it.

Now after using the NuStep machine on a regular basis in the past several weeks, Matthew's verbal abilities have greatly improved. Matthew is talking in sentences, and often more than one sentence at a time. He recently got frustrated waiting on his mom to get ready to leave the house for therapy and he came and found her and told her what she needed to do to get out of the house! He has also improved dramatically in being able to name objects clearly on the first try (for instance, he can identifying the difference between a quarter and a nickel).

Since using the NuStep he can now lift his right leg, move it forward and backward, pivet it, and then move his leg from side to side. He's never been able to do any of that movement before except for moving his right foot forward to take a step. He can also get out of bed, stand up with his frame slightly bent, transfer his weight and get into his wheelchair all by himself.

Matthew is also identifying colors correctly (which is a big improvement over calling everything black or red). The world of the artist seems to be awakening in his mind!!! With his right arm he has drawn three pictures. When you compare these pictures to pictures he has drawn with his left hand, the lines are smoother in the right hand drawing than with his left hand drawing. Amazing! Recently Matthew was with his family at the Cole Camp Fair and he thoroughly enjoyed looking at the children's art exhibit. He look very intently at the art and said "wow, look at all those colors."

Speaking of colors, a generous lady in Matthew's Uncle Joel's church made a quilt for him - black with all sorts of colors on it. He is fascinated looking at the colors. He's excited every time he opens up the quilt and studies the colors.

Every day Matthew makes dramatic changes!!!

Nancy Peterson, a neurodevelopment specialist will be teaching the Sedalia community and surrounding areas about rythmic movement training and how it will help people with disabilities: autism, ADHD, brain trauma, etc. Matthew and his caregivers are excited to learn more and attend this training session. To learn more about this, check out www.haraldblomberg.com or www.rhythmicmovement.com.

There are a few more new developments in the last couple of weeks. Matthew has a "lift" in his left shoe now. Matthew's walking has been inhibited by the way he comes down on his toes instead of his heel, but now the lift helps to angle his foot correctly as he steps.

In addition to this new development, Matthew has a new primary PMR doctor, Dr. Janet Gorham. She has been assisting with his care all along, but his previous primary physician retired and she took over Matthew's care. She discovered that Matthew's inner ear balance has been off ever since the accident. That has been corrected and now Matthew is able to stand much better and is more stable for longer periods of time.

ALSO, Matthew has seen a special optometrist, Dr. Carol Scott. There was concern about his right eye having damage that may not have healed. His right eye was "lazy." But Matthew's eye has gotten stonger and stronger and his eye is completely healed on the right side. Praise the Lord!

Check the Sedalia paper out Wednesday. Matthew was interviewed and it's possible the article will be in the paper in the next day or two.

Please mark your calendars for next year on September 12, 2009. The Kurz family and others that God has brought their way are sponsoring a walk-a-thon to raise awareness for those with brain injuries and that there is life after brain injury!!! This walk-a-thon will be in Centennial Park in Sedalia (watch for more information in the coming months). It has been an amazing journey with God's help every step of the way for the Kurz family and people have been referred to the Kurz family all the time with help in dealing with their own struggles. The Kurz have been an inspiration to others and now they want to help increase awareness for brain injuries. One half of the money raised will go to the Missouri Brain Injury Association to help have a voice at the Missouri Capital and assist with the camp that Matthew attended this past summer. One-fourth will go to West-Central Independent Living Solutions (WILS) which is an organization that helps build handicapped accessible ramps. The other fourth will go to Bridges, an organization that has a rec center for those with brain injuries to come and have fun.

Matthew was going for a walk with his new personal assistant (the nursing care is gone, but the state still pays for some daytime in-home assistance) and Matthew said "You know what, this is temporary (pointing to his wheelchair). I am going to get better." He is showing signs that he's taking personal responsibility for getting better. It's not just mom telling him he can do things.

By the way, we want to give a special "thank you" to Matthew's nurses. They were wonderful and loved Matthew and gave him great care! It's a strain on Matthew's family to be without the nurses, but they are making adjustments.

Have a great day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 8/24/08

2008-08-24T12:37:00.000-07:00

Matthew's home!!! During the month stay at Rusk Rehab Center, he made great progress and continues down the road of improvement. The biggest improvement was in the area of speech and communication. Matthew's vocabulary is even better and he is making appropriate responses in his communication. Even more exciting is that Matthew is able to initiate asking questions rather than just repeating what someone else tells him to say or ask.

Matthew is also now reading books and magazines. He has been doing this for a while, but previously it was difficult for him to communicate what he just read. Now the flow of his reading is better and he's learned to overcome the aphasia (dictionary meaning of this word: the loss of a previously held ability to speak or understand spoken or written language, due to disease or injury of the brain.)

Another major hurdle that Matthew is learning to overcome is dealing with his situation and disability. Matthew has fought against it at times and been frustrated with not being able to do the things he wants. But recently he has shown signs of accepting his situation/disability and is learning how to deal with life as it is for him now. He is aware that he can still do things, but just has to do them differently now. He's much happier and has accepted who and what he is.

Matthew also has made great strides with his physical therapy while at Rusk. His back muscles are much stronger and he can stand longer and continues to practice walking. He often refuses to use the walker or cane to walk. He now uses the person next to him for support. He puts his arm around that person and off he goes. That person has to be very strong to help support this large young man. He walks the best when his favorite music is playing such as the Beatles.

Recently botox was administered to Matthew's right arm because the muscles have been so tight. Now that it is relaxed more with the botox, Matthew and therapists are working hard to flex his right arm and hand. Soon he will have an occupational therapist working with him at home to continue the improvements he has made right his right arm.

Speaking of therapy, Matthew has returned to doing therapy at Bothwell. We are thankful for those at Rusk as well as Bothwell that give great care to Matthew. Thanks also to the nurses that have cared for Matthew at home. He will be losing nursing care at the end of this month because he no longer qualifies for LPN care. His improvements and self-care that he can do himself have disqualified him for nursing care. So, despite the fact that it puts more on his parents' shoulders at nighttime, it's a good thing because of Matthew's progress.

Three weeks before going to Rusk, Matthew had the opportunity to use an exercise machine called "NuStep." This ergonomic Cross Trainer is shown to assist with neuromuscular re-education. For a person with brain injury or brain trauma (even those with strokes), this is helps the nerves re-communicate with the muscles. After using NuStep, results show improvement different areas: cognitive, memory, balance, walking, and talking. Matthew's writing and eating with his right hand improved just in the three weeks of using the machine. Matthew's family discovered and applied for a grant with Kids' Missouri Assisted Technology to get "NuStep" in the home and Praise the Lord, they received that grant. Matthew soon will receive his own NuStep to use on a daily basis. His doctor from Rusk (Dr. Ruppright) said that if Matthew is able to exercise every day for the rest of his life, he may be able to manage the tone in his muscles.

Last, but not least, Matthew will be receiving instruction in art. His art and creativity appear to still be strong, but he will need to learn to compensate in using his left hand with drawing. A young man who is an art student at State Fair Community College in Sedalia is going to give Matthew art instruction. This young man had a spinal cord injury and can relate well with Matthew's challenges. Matthew will also be receiving instruction and encouragement from a retired art professor from CMSU (University of Central Missouri). He is eager to work with Matthew to help him redevelop his art skills.

Matthew's brother, Andrew is back to college for his second year at Rockhurst College in Kansas City. He is doing very well and we are quite proud of him. The other boys are also doing well. Lucas has started high school and Timothy likes his new teacher for this year.

Thank you for your patience in waiting for more news about Matthew. We've been unavailable quite a bit this summer, but are getting back into a routine. I will do my best to provide an update at least once a month for all of you. Thanks to everyone that sent Matthew a card while he was at Rusk. He LOVED getting mail and loves to show his mail to anyone that visits. The "talking" cards were a big hit! My family and I stopped to see Matthew on our way home from vacation and he was eager to show us his cards. Several of them made him laugh again and again. During our visit we went outside with Matthew and showed him our dogs (beagles). He enjoyed that (but was not crazy about one of them licking his face). Matthew's favorite part about being outside was showing us all the cars in the parking lot that he REALLY likes. Sporty ones and fancy trucks are his favorite, especially if they are black, dark green or blue or red.

Hope you had a wonderful summer. God be with you this day.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Matthew Back to Rusk

2008-07-18T05:58:00.000-07:00

Matthew has returned to the Rusk rehab center in Columbia, MO. This is a positive development due to Matthew's growing self-sufficiency--walking more on his own, talking, drawing, and even opening his own mail...and enjoying that very much. Since Matthew is showing more self-sufficiency, the folks at Rusk are eager to help him more, and the state is willing to foot the bill.

Matthew would love to receive letters and cards. You can send them to:

Matthew Kurz
Room 236B
Rusk Rehabilitation Center
315 Business Loop 70 W.
Columbia, MO 65203

Randy Asburry
Matthew's Godfather

Update - 7/6/08

2008-07-06T19:29:00.000-07:00

More good news - this past week Matthew drew, with his RIGHT hand, a person standing. He was able to do this all by himself without any assistance. What a blessing! He is able to pick up objects with his right hand. Although his fingers are a little misformed, he is able to do more all the time with his right hand.

Matthew is also reading long complicated sentences and carrying on conversations that are a little more in-depth. Matthew also continues to walk with a cane with someone assisting him. He continues to make strides and we couldn't be more thankful.

The Kurz family would like to thank everyone who came to the fundraiser in Sedalia last weekend. There was a tremendous turn-out for the event. Thank you for your on-going prayers and support of the Kurz family and in particular, Matthew!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 6/22/08

2008-06-22T18:26:00.000-07:00

A quick update to give you some incredibly good news. Matthew's stomach hole from the feeding tube as FINALLY completely healed shut (after 8 months!!!). Praise the Lord!

The leg braces that Matthew recently received (mentioned in the last update) are a great help to Matthew. He is walking so much better wearing the braces. With the braces on, he can now stand up out of his chair all by himself. He can also hold his balance using the cane and no additional assistance from therapists or family for a full minute. This is a great accomplishment.

To respond to the comment from the previous update, the fundraiser information is listed in full in the last paragraph of the update on 5/22/08. For more information, contact the lady listed in that paragraph.

Have a wonderful day!!!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - June 16, 2008

2008-06-16T18:51:00.000-07:00

Incredible news!!!! Matthew has been walking with the cane!!! We couldn't be more thrilled. He needs support at least on one side and it takes a great deal of effort, but Matthew can do it. During therapy he alternates between walking with a walker and with the cane. When asked if he's ready to start walking, Matthew will say, "Yes, but not multiple times." It's hard work!!

Tuesday Matthew will be getting leg braces. His knee is not stable because of previous injuries playing baseball. The leg braces will help to stabilize his knee as well as help with his balance when walking. Speaking of his legs, Matthew's strength in his right leg is increasing and he is now able to lift is right leg when sitting in his chair.

As Matthew's abilities increase with his right side, there is still concern that he hasn't gotten back full use of his right hand. He can move his thumb, but the rest of his fingers he doesn't use often. It has been suggested by therapists that it would be very helpful for Matthew to have a Wii game. Many of the Wii games require coordination and thinking as well as focusing on concentration. Studies have been done that those with strokes and head trauma injuries and they have increased strength and coordination using the Wii game. His family said they would restrain his left hand and help him to focus on using his right hand. His interest and drive to play the game would help him to concentrate on getting action out of his right hand. At this time, Matthew does not have a Wii game.

Matthew's memory is improving by leaps and bounds. Part of his therapy involves matching and coordinating items and being given instructions. Many times in the past he has gotten part of it accomplished, but then he forgets everything he's suppose to do. Recently he has been able to complete the task at hand without any trouble, almost as if it required no effort at all.

The fundraiser in Kansas City went really well. They are still raffling tickets for some items. Preparations for the big dinner fundraiser at Our Savior Lutheran Church in Sedalia are going well. If you will be in town on June 29th, we hope you can attend.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 5/22/08

2008-05-22T06:25:00.000-07:00

Happy Birthday, Matthew!!!

Today is Matthew's birthday and he is having an incredible time at camp this week. I'm sure they are celebrating his birthday today BIG TIME!

Before I describe his experience at camp, I want to mention that Matthew's surgery went very well and yes, it was outpatient without any complications. The leakage from the site has improved, but there is one setback. Several days ago (while at camp) the area around the closed-up hole has shown infection. Matthew is so happy and having so much fun at camp that he's not realizing any discomfort. The doctor has prescribed an antibiotic customized for Matthew because of his previous experience with a staph infection, and then Matthew will see the doctor next week. Please keep Matthew's condition in your prayers because any kind of infection for him can lead to serious complications.

Now, back to the camp story. Matthew loves going fishing on a pontoon boat specially equipped for those in wheelchairs. He has also done crafts (with tie-dyed shirts) and gone on natural trails. Matthew LOVES to be outside and this is absolutely wonderful for him. The boy scout in Matthew is lovin' it!!! The counselors at the camp found out that Matthew loves to sing Beatles' songs, so they encouraged him to sing for the whole camp the first night. Matthew wasn't shy and launched right into the song. Everyone who knew the words joined in with him.

At the end of the night, Matthew is very tired from all the activity, but when asked by his nurse if he wants to go to bed, he says "NO." She then says, "you must not want to miss anything," to which he responds, "OH YEAH."

Regarding Matthew's therapy in the last several weeks, his balance has improved tremendously. A couple days ago he stood for 15 minutes holding his own balance. It is crucial that he is able to maintain his own balance while standing. He can't make progress with walking if he hasn't mastered the balance. So, this is great encouragement. Unfortunately, for the time being walking in therapy is on hold. Matthew uses his stomach muscles a great deal when he walks and this puts a tremendous strain on the ability for the stomach to heal.

Matthew's ability to talk in sentences has also increased. He's not saying short sentences that a young child would say, but rather more in-depth sentences. And he continues to joke with family and friends, as well as give them a hard time.

I can offer you a little more information on the fundraisers being planned in June. The first one will be June 7th and will be held at the Thrivent Lutheran Thrift Store in Kansas City, MO. Mr. Bob Boone is still the contact person. If you have not been able to get a hold of him, please keep trying or call the thrift store for more information. I'm sorry, I don't have the contact information for the store, but those of you in the Kansas City area may be familiar with it.

The other fundraiser is scheduled for June 29th and will be in Our Saviour Lutheran Church's gymnasium (Sedalia, MO) from 12:00 p.m. - 3:00 p.m. Grilled chicken will be served and there will be a very large bake sale. The adult Sunday school Bible class of St. Paul Lutheran Church is sponsoring the fundraiser as well. If you would like to donate or contribute in any way to the fundraiser, contact Pat Monsees, secretary of the church at 660-826-1164 or mail to 701 S. Massachusetts, Sedalia, MO 65301. The location of the fundraiser at Our Savior's on Sunday, June 29th is 3700 W. Broadway Blvd. across from Lowe's on Highway 50.

Have a wonderful day and a safe Memorial Day weekend.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 5/1/08

2008-05-01T06:02:00.001-07:00

Greetings!

We rejoice that Matthew is doing well and continues to make progress. He is doing very well walking with the walker and now that his right arm can be straightened down to the walker, he is able to walk straighter. Matthew only uses the walker during therapy so he's not out and about with the walker, but we're thankful he's up on his feet for periods of time each day.

Please keep Matthew in your prayers for next Tuesday. The hole left from the removal of his feeding tube has not completely healed shut and it is still causing him discomfort (six months after the tube was removed). What has developed is fishula which is granulated tissue that formed around the feeding tube and when the tube was removed the tissue never healed or closed itself up. It is suppose to be out-patient surgery and we pray there are no complications to cause setbacks for Matthew.

We pray that Matthew heals well from this surgery because he is scheduled to attend camp from May 18-23. This is a special camp for head trauma victims and it will be a wonderful opportunity for Matthew and a well-deserved rest for Mom and Dad at home.

Matthew is getting more assertive and directs his own care. He lets his caregiver know that something needs to be done and when it isn't done immediately, he won't let the caregiver forget and repeats the need over and over.

Other improvements are: his vocabulary is improving and using larger words requiring higher level thinking; he does very well remembering details of a story if he hears it rather than trying to read it - it appears he may do better with auditory learning; and Matthew makes involuntary movements with his right hand (like reaching out to grab a cup without even thinking about it) and then he wonders what to do with it when he has it in his hand - this is a step in the right direction for him to be able to control his right hand even better.

Matthew got to go for a drive with a friend in a car (without the wheelchair) and he was thrilled!!! He operated the radio and was grinning from ear to ear the whole trip.

There will be a couple of fundraisers in June (with matching assistance from Thrivent Financial for Lutherans) to help with Matthew's care and medical expenses. The family does not have additional health care coverage so they have to rely solely on medicare. If you would like more information on how to contribute to the fundraisers, you may contact Thrivent insurance representative, Bob Boone:

Bob Boone
7220 W. 98th Terrace, Suite 230
Overland Park, KS 66212

816-590-9064
Robert.Boone@Thrivent.com

Thank you for any assistance you may be able to provide as well as your prayers.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 3/14/08

2008-03-14T08:44:00.000-07:00

Matthew continues to make great strides with his ability to walk. He is able to control both his right and left legs in taking the steps on his own while using a walker and he is able to switch his weight by himself with each step. His physical therapist is very impressed and positive about the future.

Little by little Matthew is able to do more with his right hand. Previously he was only able to hold a marker in his hand. Now he is able to move the marker or pencil around the page. This simple step is a milestone! He is also able to lift and push 10 lbs with his right hand when he goes to the gym to lift weights.

Matthew is also continuing to increase in his ability to talk and comprehend what is going on around him. Here are a few examples of his conversations with his family:

"Matthew, I have a thought?"
Matthew's response: "And that is . . .?"

"What would you like to do?"
Matthew's response: "What are my choices?"

This indicates higher thinking skills!

Recently the Kurz family was contacted by an organization called EFECT (Encouraging Families with Exceptional Children Together) to tell their family's story following Matthew and Andrew's car accident. EFECT is a non-profit organization developed by parents for parents of children with disabilities ranging from autism to brain injury to deaf to down syndrome (see their Web page: www.efect.org). They produce a newsletter to support their members and the following article will appear (or has recently appeared) in their newsletter. The Kurz family would like to share that article with you as well.

Journey of Hope
By Brenda Kurz

On January 25, 2006, our lives suddenly changed in ways we never could have imagined. Our oldest son, Matthew, 17, and his brother Andrew, 15, were driving to school when they crashed into a stopped school bus as they came around a blind curve. The impact was so great that the car slid under the rear of the bus. Although no one on the bus was injured, Matthew suffered massive head trauma and a broken collarbone. He was in a coma for two and a half weeks. Andrew also had a concussion, cracked a vertebra in his neck and had to wear a neck brace for a month while healing from cuts and bruises. After the accident, we found ourselves not only in the new, unfamiliar world of traumatic brain injury, but also navigating through a new world of hope and faith, family and friends. Before the accident we lived in the small town of Cole Camp, Mo. My husband, Erich, was serving as the pastor of two rural Lutheran churches. I was the busy mother of four boys ages 10-17 and also ran my Shaklee home-based business. Our lives have changed drastically, but through the losses, changes, and uncertain times, new doors have opened in the way of new-found blessings, strength, and reasons for comfort and joy. Our son Andrew has recovered from his injuries very well. He is presently attending college at Rockhurst University in Kansas City. For Matthew, though, he will be recovering for the rest of his life.

Matthew was in intensive care at the hospital at Columbia University for over three weeks. From there, he was moved to Rusk Rehabilitation Center, also in Columbia, where he received care and therapies until July 7, 2006. During those days, we celebrated every sign of progress, no matter how small, as big steps on the way in our journey of hope. The first time Matthew moved his big toe, ever so slightly, our family and friends rejoiced. In the waiting room we hugged, crying tears of joy. The first time Matthew opened his eyes just a little, and looked at us, is a moment we will never forget. The doctors couldn’t tell us what Matthew's life would be like because every head trauma is different. Matthew's brain suffered severe injury to the right front temporal area, as well as multiple areas of bleeding and clotting throughout his brain. Life has had to start over for our son. He is relearning how to talk, how to walk, and how to perform other basic functions. One of our biggest challenges was to find a home that would be suited to our son’s new set of needs. In our more than 17 years as a minister’s family, we had never owned a home. The doctor told us we probably had about four months to try to make housing arrangements before Matthew would be released from Rusk Rehabilitation Center. When that time came, we would need to be ready to bring Matthew home.

At the time Matthew couldn't walk, talk or sit up on his own. He received all his nutrition through a feeding tube. He needed 24-hour care for every basic need. Some people, not understanding the intense care and attention Matthew needed so much- and not realizing that with these injuries you have to fight for every bit of progress- even thought we should put Matthew in a nursing home. As parents, the thought of our son in a nursing home was never acceptable. We had also visited with other head trauma families and they encouraged us, saying that caring for Matthew at home would be his best chance for maximizing his recovery and keeping the progress going.

Our Thrivent Financial for Lutherans representatives, Bob Boone and Fred Hollick, were instrumental in organizing the fundraisers that helped us to meet the down-payment for the new handicap-accessible home we were able to move into in November 2006. Matthew's care at home has been provided through Special Health Care Needs. In July of 2006, he started 24-hour care and now needs only nighttime care. We are so thankful for Matthew’s care, and for the nurses who have helped us so well, in our home. Many people ask how we, as parents, manage to take care of Matthew and our other three sons. As tragic and trying as the times have been, Matthew’s traumatic brain injury has also brought with it many new blessings for our family. In the hands of our heavenly Fathers, our sons’ accident has served God’s good and loving purposes along the way.

It has been two years since the accident and this journey of hope has been an up-and-down road of many emotions. Each day we begin with prayer: "Lord, thank you for the many blessings you have given us. Give us Your strength and wisdom to care for our son." We are living day to day with the many needs our family now has. Every new task Matthew learns is something that shines more light through the window for us to see the new Matthew we now have, and for us to recognize the gift from God we have in him. We focus on the present, and we hope for the future: what we as parents have now, how we can encourage Matthew and our family to grow and recover, how this accident has brought our family closer together. In two years, Matthew has come a very long way on his journey of hope. On May 21, 2006, he graduated from high school on his own merit, based on the requirements he had already met before the accident. That day was the first time we saw him smile and raise his head on his own. In November, he started to stand with help. On the 13th of November, he was able to say his name. Then very slowly, with prompting, he said, "Mom, I love you." It was music to this mother’s ears.

That first Christmas after Matthew’s injury, carolers came to our new home. The last song they sang that night was "Silent Night." To our great surprise, Matthew started to sing the song with them. It was the first time we had heard him sing since the accident. In February of 2007, Matthew started to eat little bits of real food and drink from a cup. In March he was able to transfer, with help, from his wheelchair to his bed. In June he started to stand using parallel bars, and first took a step with his left foot. During the fall of 2007, he started to walk, with therapists helping to pull his right leg while he moved the left on his own. On October 31st, Matthew's feeding tube was removed and, at long last, he could eat meals with the family.

On the two-year anniversary of his accident, Matthew started taking his own steps with his right leg. He now walks using both legs with great effort and the assistance of a walker. These are just some of the celebrations we count as blessings. Matthew still has great difficulty with word recall and often needs prompting to talk. In the last three months, he has started to initiate his own thoughts and sentences. This is very big cause for celebration, and wonderful sign the front lobes of his brain are healing. It has been two years now, and Matthew is still showing signs of healing and progress. We are so thankful for this blessing! What the future holds for Matthew, only God knows. Matthew may never be able to care fully for himself, walk a long distance, communicate his thoughts or needs completely or have a job or a family of his own. Our Lord is carrying us on this journey of hope. Among the many changes in our lives since the accident, my husband began serving as a chaplain for Crossroads Hospice in September 2007. Through our trials and our times spent with other hurting families, through seeing times of struggle as opportunities for sharing love and compassion, Erich felt God was calling him to help others who were dealing with changes and with losses in their lives. It has truly been a joy for him to become involved with the work that Crossroads Hospice is doing at such a significant time in the lives of so many people.

Our family now lives in Sedalia, Mo., closer to Matthew’s therapies and the many trips to Columbia. Matthew has had nine surgeries and another surgery in the near future is still a possibility. In many ways, life has been given a new meaning for us. As a result of this ongoing journey of hope, we have learned to appreciate the little things more and more. And we have learned to use the life God has given us to help bring hope to others who might be dealing with traumatic brain injury, or with other challenges and changes in their lives.

Update - 2/4/08

2008-02-04T10:22:00.000-08:00

Matthew Takes Unassisted Steps with Right Leg!!!!

We are so thrilled!!! Previously Matthew had to have a large rubberband attached to the end of his right shoe and that was connected to a bar on the walker. When the walker was moved forward, it helped to pull Matthew's right foot forward since he was unable to move it himself. That's not the case now. Earlier last week Matthew took eight steps with BOTH feet unassisted. No rubber band on his right foot! He picked his right foot up and moved it forward by himself. It was a lot of work but he did it! Toward the end of the week, he progress and went much farther than eight steps - unassisted again. He is still using the walker and has helpers around him, but this is a major accomplishment for his right leg and foot.

As I mentioned in the previous blog, Matthew is more self-aware. Since that message, he continues to progress and says more variety of his wants and needs. Also, in speech therapy one of the exercises he has to do is finish a sentence with a word or two. Often Matthew would get stuck on one or two responses and repeat them, even if they weren't appropriate for the sentence. Now Matthew has improved and is using new appropriate words to finish the sentences.

That's all the news for now. Just had to share with all of you about Matthew's progress with his right leg.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 1/22/08

2008-01-22T07:15:00.000-08:00

Good morning! I hope and pray the new year is off to a good start for you. Here we are nearing the end of January already!!!

We continue to thank the Lord for Matthew's progress. For most brain trauma victims, the majority of their improvement comes in the first 18 months following their accident and then they begin to plateau. Matthew is definitely not following the norm. This Friday will mark the two year anniversary of the accident and Matthew is still making significant progress and continues to improve.

When you look back at previous updates posted, you'll see that there's usually some mention of Matthew standing or walking and the challenges involved with those. Most of us take standing and walking for granted. For Matthew it continues to be a "hurtle" he works to overcome every session in therapy. The brace I mentioned before didn't turn out to be the asset they hoped. So, it's still up to Matthew. His balance has improved. When standing, his assistants can let go of him for a minute or two and he holds himself up. His improved balance is also evident when using the therapy ball. He sits on the ball and has to correct his balance when the ball moves one direction or the other. I've mentioned the therapy ball before, but his balance is much better than in previous months.

When it comes to walking, Matthew is doing an incredible job of moving his right leg. He can now bend his right knee, left his heel a bit, but still needs a little assistance dragging his foot forward. So, little by little his right leg improves. A recent addition to his therapy has been to have electric stimuli on the right leg (like a patch with voltage). It triggers the muscles used to pick up the foot. The good news is when Matthew is sitting or laying in bed he can lift his right leg on his own. So, the muscles in the right leg do have the ability to lift. It's just a matter of retraining his body and mind to work together to do the lifting when walking. In therapy session, Matthew has normally had to have someone push his hip and make him switch his weight to the other side. Now they just have to tell him to do it, and he does it on his own.

There is a new facet to Matthew's therapy. He's taken to the gym to exercise two times a week. After seven sessions, Matthew can now lift 100 lbs. doing leg extensions and curls with both legs at the same time. He is lifting with control. He has made bigger jumps of improvement with his right leg since he's been going to the gym.

I don't want to leave out discussion about another part of his right side - his right hand. Matthew can close his right hand into a fist and then open and extend his fingers to an open hand. He can now move his thumb as well. This is terrific news considering what his right hand was like. The next step is to work on dexterity and the ability to pick things up with his right hand.

Something that I wasn't aware of before is an awareness of self is disrupted for brain trauma victims. Some get that back and some never do. Thankfully, Matthew is getting that back. It is very exciting that he is more self-aware. He used to be like a "puppet" and do whatever any one told him to do (if he had the physical capability to do it). Now that he's more self-aware, he won't do it if he's embarrassed or isn't interested. Matthew is even initiating speech with "I" statements like: "I need to go to sleep" or "I need something to listen to." Pointing to parts of his body also demonstrates this awareness of self, such as pointing to his nose or his ears when instructed to.

Matthew now eats everything the family eats instead of having to make a separate meal for Matthew. Any parent is relieved when their toddler starts eating table food and they can stop buying those jars of baby food. Matthew's mom said it's even more thrilling the second time around when the young man eats the meal with his family.

Attention spans can sometimes be very short for those with head injuries. Matthew's attention span is getting longer. If it's something that he's not interested in, his attention span is still short, 3-8 minutes long. But if it's something he enjoys and it holds his interest, he can stick with it for 20-45 minutes. And if it's singing a song that he knows, Matthew still remembers all the words of the song and will sing it over and over.

Matthew's parents would like to wish you all a blessed New Year and they thank you for your continued prayers for Matthew.

Have a wonderful day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 12/14/07

2007-12-14T07:08:00.000-08:00

It's hard to believe a month has gone by already since my last posting about Matthew's progress. And here we are headed to Christmas! I pray God's peace and joy to all of you as you rejoice in the gift of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

My family had the great privilege of seeing Matthew and the rest of the family at Thanksgiving. It was so enjoyable to interact with Matthew and laugh with him. He has such a pleasant demeanor and it's also easy to tell when he's teasing and joking. A big smile comes over his face! Matthew doesn't carry on a conversation like you and I do, but he certainly can communicate with facial expressions and speaking phrases that you can't help but get the jist of his meaning or laugh at his joke. Oh, yeah, baby!

The highlight of the visit was Matthew's therapy session. First Brenda, Randy and I were with Matthew during speech therapy. He works hard to come up with answers to the questions the therapist asks. The questions were not always simple things like identifying a picture, but more abstract concepts like, "who protects people or gives you a ticket?" (Do you know the answer?) At first we didn't think Matthew was going to come up with the answer. He struggled to say the right word, even when assisted with prompts of the "p" sound for policeman, but then Matthew came up with the answer on his own and said "cop." His speech therapist works with Matthew on a wide range of concepts from colors to animals to public servants as well as word order in a sentence and other critical language skills.

Following speech therapy was the big accomplishment - walking!!!! When you see Matthew walk, you can tell what a major accomplishment it is because he really has to work hard for every step. Right now it's a three person effort to assist Matthew - two in the front and one behind, but Matthew is doing the work. He has a special walker that has a "ledge" on the right side for Matthew to put his right arm and then his left hand grasps the bar of the walker. The therapist puts a rubber strap on his right foot that helps to bring Matthew's foot forward, but Matthew does the lifting of his right heal (read on . . . that has recently changed). Every step forward with the left foot is totally Matthew's effort.

This time Matthew had a cheering section with the whole Kurz family and the Asburry family watching and encouraging. Even others walking by were giving Matthew encouragement and telling him he was doing great. After walking down the long hall (with a couple stops to rest), Matthew struggles to stand upright and he's glad to be done with his therapist says that's it for the day.

Now that I've said the above regarding what Matthew has accomplished in the past months, I have new information to share with you that is further improvement. A couple of weeks ago Matthew took 20 steps with both left AND right feet totally on his own. He continues to improve in his ability to move his right side. A recent addition to his therapy session is a brace that Matthew wears that helps to stabilize his balance and his stride.

In the midst of the joy of Matthew's continued improvements and anticipation of the coming of Christmas, the Kurz family has suffered a loss. Rev. Erich Kurz' father passed away yesterday on December 13th. He had struggled for years with poor health and has been released from his suffering and now rests with our Savior. Please keep the Kurz family in your prayers at this time of sorrow amidst the joy of resurrection.

Blessed Advent to all of you!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update 11/14/07

2007-11-14T06:45:00.000-08:00

Recently the Sedalia Democrat newspaper ran a story on Matthew's progress. It's a terrific article with pictures of Matthew standing and walking with the walker. The author of the article did a wonderful job describing the effort that goes into every step Matthew takes. As I read the article, I realized all the information I was going to put in this update is covered in the article so I urge you to access the link to see the pictures and read the story:

http://www.sedaliademocrat.com/news/matthew_3695___article.html/right_brenda.html

Just a few more updates from my conversation with the family earlier this week, Matthew is initiating more of his speech, especially in sentences. He also has increased his ability to make his wishes known and gives instructions to his family (in other words - tells his family what to do!!). He continues to grow stronger all the time. At times he can lift his whole right leg up while he's sitting in his chair - sometimes without realizing he did it.

The hole from the feeding tube has not completely closed yet, but it is healing.

At this time of the year, we often "take stock" of all the blessings our Lord has bestowed on us and give thanks to the giver of all good things. It is fitting to read/sing the hymn "We Praise You, O God" as we give thanks to God for what he does for each of us and what he continues to do for the Kurz family.

We praise you, O God, our Redeemer, Creator;
In grateful devotion our tribute we bring.
We lay it before You, we kneel and adore you;
We bless Your holy name, glad praises we sing.

We worship You, God of our fathers, we bless You;
Through trial and tempest our guide You have been.
When perils o'er take us, You will not forsake us,
And with Your help, O Lord, our struggles we win.

With voices united our praises we offer
And gladly our songs of thanksgiving we raise.
With You, Lord, beside us, Your strong arm will guide us.
To You, our great Redeemer, forever be praise!

LSB 785

Blessed Thanksgiving to you all!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 10/27/07

2007-10-27T13:08:00.000-07:00

Praise the Lord! More good news!

Matthew's feed tube was removed this week!!!! He has been eating solid food consistently for several months and is asking for food and water, so the doctor decided it wasn't necessary to leave the feeding tube in any longer. What a blessing!!!

The length that Matthew is able to walk increases daily and weekly. Matthew has now walked over 300 feet at one time with the walker. What an incredible accomplishment!

I don't have any negative news to share - only good news. Matthew's speech and vocal abilities continue to progress and he's doing a great job of speaking in sentences. His mother said there are times when they can almost carry on a conversation with him, rather than just give directions and get responses.

I'm glad to hear from the comments on the previous blog message that people continue to check the blog for Matthew's updates. It is most encouraging to know that Matthew and his family are still in people's prayers and on their minds. I totally agree with one of the comments - that Matthew's parents are doing a wonderful job of taking care of him. He gets incredible daily care from his family and they will never give up on this child of God.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 10/12/07

2007-10-12T06:51:00.000-07:00

Good morning!

Matthew continues to progress and it's such a joy to hear each new thing he can do. Last Friday Matthew took a couple steps WITH HIS RIGHT LEG!!!!!! As I have mentioned before he needed assistance moving his right leg forward when he was walking with the walker. This time he managed to move the right leg on his own. It was VERY hard to do. He was sweating from exersion and all the effort and concentration, but he did it. He isn't able to completely lift the right left off the floor and make a step like you or I do, but he can raise his heel and then slides his foot forward. It was a major accomplishment for Matthew and we are proud of his effort! I'm sure the therapists have been encouraging him to do it more this week.

There is a special brace that will assist Matthew in continuing to progress with walking. He was recently fitted for this brace at Children's Mercy Hospital in Kansas City. This brace fits around his waist with bars that go down the sides of his thighs. The brace works to keep his legs evenly spaced apart and will help him with balancing when walking and assist his ability to step with his right leg. Matthew also will have a platform under his left foot that helps with the balance issue as his weight is shifted from the stronger side to the weaker side.

Matthew's right hand and arm are also getting stronger. He is able to wash his face and comb his hair with his right hand. This is incredibly positive considering how his right hand and arm weren't mobile for quite some time.

And in case you're wondering how his brother is, Andrew is doing extremely well in college and really loves the collegiate life. He recently had a break from college and was home for several days. The family enjoys having him home!!!!!

Have a wonderful weekend!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 9/25/07

2007-09-25T11:01:00.000-07:00

We couldn't be happier. Matthew is making tremendous progress in many areas, particularly with walking and his speech. For more than two weeks, he has been walking over 100 ft. at a time (with one or two stops to rest for a minute). This walking is done using a walker and he does need a little assistance moving the right leg forward, but Matthew is doing most of the effort on his own. He is doing a terrific job balancing his weight while using the walker and can reach back to his chair and sit down on his own. Matthew's right side still shows signs of strengthening. He can roll himself completely in bed to either side WITHOUT assistance. He couldn't do that before because of his right side.

The last post mentioned Matthew's visit to the neurologist. The doctor did drain a very small amount of excess fluid and there was a little hardening of the shunt, but nothing to be concerned about.

Matthew is also talking a great deal more and initiating sentences on his own. Recently, Lucas turned the TV off and Matthew said without any prompting or difficulty in being understood, "Lucas, turn that TV back on." He definitely knows what he wants and is getting better at communicating that. He is also eating a lot more and asking for food which is quite a change from a few months ago.

We thank you, O Lord, for your continued care of Matthew!

"Praise the Lord! Praise God in his sanctuary; praise him in his mighty heavens! Praise him for his mighty deeds; praise him according to his excellent greatness! . . . Let everything that has breath praise the Lord! Praise the Lord!" Ps. 150: 1-2, 6

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 9/4/07

2007-09-04T09:44:00.000-07:00

Matthew is moving right along. Last week he used the walker and took 50+ steps all at one time (with a couple rest stops in the middle). He was very proud of himself!!! Matthew is also scheduled to have more time in the coming weeks on the auto-ambulator at Rusk in Columbia. That is very exciting!!! It will strengthen what he's been able to accomplish on his own.

Today (Tuesday) the neurologist is examining Matthew's shunt from his brain to his stomach. They will put dye in the shunt and watch the flow to see if it is traveling well or if there is blockage. If there is blockage, the neurologist may considering draining off fluid from Matthew's brain. Please pray for a positive outcome of these procedures!!!

God be with you this day!!!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 8/27/07

2007-08-27T14:07:00.000-07:00

Short update - Big news!

Matthew took a total of 37 steps just today!!!!! He even moved his right leg more. Praise the Lord! As of today he has taken a total of 151 steps. Someone concerned is keeping count!!!!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 8/23/07

2007-08-23T06:39:00.000-07:00

Matthew is movin' and groovin'. Since the last post, Matthew has taken a total of 51 steps on his own. Now, he doesn't do all of those at once, of course. He can usually take five or six steps a day, but it's alot of work for him. He is showing more and more control over his left leg in taking the step and is steadier. The right leg has to be moved manually by someone else because Matthew still isn't able to move it. But on the positive side, the therapists can see move muscle movement as he tries to move his right leg and that's good.

Tuesday Matthew got a walker. With a person on either side of him, he pulls himself up to a standing position. He's getting better and better with his balance and does very well with switching his weight from one leg to the other.

Matthew speech continues to improve. He is saying more and more words on his own when naming objects. He's also beginning to initiate things. He points to something he wants and uses his facial expressions to try to communicate his needs, but then he speaks really fast and mumbles the words of what he wants. So, he has to say it again to be understood and he tries hard to correct his words. He will also spin his wheelchair around and head to the door to ty to follow his family when they leave to go somewhere.

Next Wednesday Matthew will receive an injection of botox in his right bicep. The muscle is extremely tight and he's not able to use it very well in therapy because of the taughtness.

Please keep Matthew in your prayers for next Friday. He will be seeing the neurologist for more testing. They need to figure out why Matthew still has fluid on his brain and determine if the shunt is not working properly or other causes of fluid build-up. The level of fluid has not gone done from January through July 2007.

Despite the ups and downs, the fact that Matthew continues to improve this far out from the accident is remarkable. He continues to show signs of mending which is unusual after 18 months from the time of the accident. He definitely is not a textbook case.

In previous posts, I mentioned that Andrew would be starting college. Well, that time is here. Andrew is doing well and enjoys college so far (doing a great job getting acquainted and making new friends). He is attending Rockhurst University in Kansas City. We thank the Lord for Andrew's accomplishments and his strength of character.

Blessings to you this day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 7/31/07

2007-07-31T14:09:00.000-07:00

NEWS FLASH!!!!!!!!!

Matthew took THREE STEPS ON HIS OWN!!!!!!

Praise the Lord!

More information later - just had to share that terrific news with you immediately!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 7/23/07

2007-07-23T11:10:00.000-07:00

Praise the Lord! Matthew's staph infection responded to the antibiotics and he is healthy again. Doctors will always have to be watchful of Matthew's condition when he has surgery because the chances are great that he could get the staph infection again. But for now, he's doing well. The incision in his back is healing well and the blister from the brace on his foot is also doing much better. They discovered why it was taking so long for the incision in his back to heal - there were five stitches still left in there and his body was trying to get rid of them.

Previously Matthew has been able to pull himself up on the parallel bars with minimal assistant from the therapist. Today he pulled himself up UNASSISTED three times! In addition to this he is getting his strength back following the surgeries. He can scoot himself back in his chair by himself (normally had to have some assistance) and he is also able to hold his balance while he is sitting without arms or back of chair to lean against. Matthew still is dealing with tone and muscle spasms so that interferes with his ability to walk, but he is doing very well in building his strength in other areas.

Matthew's language skills are improving. He does need a little prompting in answering questions, but when he concentrates and works at what he wants to say, he can carry on a simple conversation.

Eating a normal plate of food is still not Matthew's "cup of tea" but he is eating well with the nutritional foods he is given. The challenge has been that Matthew would usually push his plate away and refuse to eat. Now when asked if he's hungry and wants to eat, he responds "Yes, please."

This coming week Matthew has several visits with doctors and lab technicians. Thursday he will have a CAT scan of the brain to see if the extra fluid has drained off via the shunt. On Friday he has a follow up visit with the neurologist and Dr. Rupright in Columbia. On Monday, the 30th Matthew will see the doctor who would be the one to do the surgery to put the bachlofin pump back in his body. He can't have any open wounds in order to have that surgery so we pray he is all healed of sores and incisions.

God be with you this day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 7/6/07

2007-07-06T08:40:00.000-07:00

Matthew's really been having a tough time recently - and continues to have rough things to deal with. He now has a tough strain of staph infection and is being treated with antibiotics. He's on his third round of antibiotics and if his body doesn't respond well to this one, then he'll need to be on a very serious antibiotic that is administered by I.V. over 4-6 weeks. A culture was done yesterday and it appears that he might be responding to the third antibiotic better than anticipated. He's very tired and takes a morning and afternoon nap, but he is eating much better.

Because of the staph infection, Matthew can't have the surgery to have the bachlofin pump replaced yet. So, he'll have to keep managing the muscle tone and discomfort. The incision in the front has healed well, but the first incision in his back to replace the catheter has not healed shut. This definitely is cause for concern. It is not unusual for staph infections to prevent wounds from healing.

It was discovered recently that Matthew has a blister on his left foot on the heel from the brace he wears after the surgery on his leg. This will prevent him from being able to stand during physical therapy until that heals. The pressure is painful on the sore when Matthew stands.

Please continue to keep Matthew in your prayers!

Andrew is doing pretty good with his hand in a cast. Quick movement of his hand causes him pain, but overall he doing well.

Have a great day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 6/27/07

2007-06-27T21:00:00.001-07:00

The last week or two have been a roller-coaster ride for the Kurz family. Things were pretty tough for Matthew following the surgery to remove the bachlofin pump. He had what seemed excessive fluid/puss oozing from the incision area, but after another trip to the hospital they found out that it is natural for the body to filling the cavity left by the bachofin pump with fluid and a great deal of it was oozing out. That has improved. Matthew also had to have an antibiotic because tests showed there was bacteria around the area where the pump was.

Toward the end of last week Matthew's spasms got better and he's handling them better. Instead of "fighting" them when they come, he calmly waits for them to pass and "works with them". After the surgery he tired easily and was not sleeping well at night. He had to work back slowing into the therapy routine.

After the surgery there was some setback in Matthew's progress with speech therapy. He was saying seven to nine word sentences clearly before the surgery but afterwards, he didn't say much in sentences and he was hard to understand. This has improved tremendously in the last week. Saturday Matthew was making a face that he wasn't happy about something, but the family couldn't figure out what was wrong. His mom said, "Matthew, you're going to have to tell me what you need. I can't understand what you're telling me with that face." Matthew then said very clearly and said the whole sentence, "I want to lay down please." It's great when Matthew can initiate the words and not just repeat what someone tells him to say.

Monday Matthew's cast was taken off and he's being fitted for a foot brace to be worn indefinitely. It's wonderful to see Matthew's foot in a normal position. As you can probably guess, he will have to do lots of therapy with that foot to stretch the tendons, but it's looking good. Things are really positive today. Matthew was standing at therapy and he initiated a small, but noticeable step with his left foot. This is terrific!

Well, the "roller coast ride" I mentioned before has it's ups and downs for Andrew as well. He fell while roller skating and broke his hand. He broke one of the major bones in the hand and this bone also happens to be the bone that takes the longest in the body to heal. Andrew will have to wear a cast for two months, but at least it is a removable cast so he can take it off to shower. But this doesn't stop Andrew. He promised his boss at the pizza restaurant that he can be a bus boy with one good hand. And so far he's doing a great job managing the "inconvenience." Hopefully his hand will heal well so he won't be going off to college with a cast on his hand.

God's blessings to you this week!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 6/16/07

2007-06-16T18:55:00.000-07:00

This has been a rough week for Matthew. On Monday his stitches from the surgery to replace the catheter to the baclofin pump were removed. Unfortunately things didn't go as smoothly as expected. Soon after this he began to have discharge from the incision area and puss was gathering. Matthew also had a fever. He was taken to the emergency room, sent home and then went to the hospital in Columbia the next day. He was taken home again and during the night the discharge increased dramatically and the incision opened so much that his parents could see through to the baclofin pump inside Matthew.

Matthew was admitted to University Hospital in Columbia and they began weaning Matthew off the medicine administered through the baclofin pump in preparation for removing the pump altogether. This was very rough for Matthew. The spasms and pain began throughout all his muscles. The surgery was Friday morning and he came through the surgery fine. The tough part is the withdrawal symptoms from the baclofin medicine. Matthew is on pain medication, but he is still very uncomfortable.

The doctors are estimating that they can put the baclofin pump back in Matthew's body in two weeks or so. The question will be where to put it. Matthew doesn't have much body fat so they had to insert the pump in muscle tissue previously. Please keep Matthew in your prayers as he recovers from surgery and has to deal with muscles spasms and tone that causes pain for Matthew. Also keep Matthew's parents in your prayers as they stay by his side and care for him - comforting him through the pain and discomfort.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 6/2/07

2007-06-03T08:22:00.000-07:00

Great news! Matthew stood this past week and didn't grimace with pain and didn't hyper-extend his left knee. So far, the lack of pain and struggle to stand is a great indication that the surgery was a success for Matthew's left leg. He still has the cast and will for a few more weeks, but the fact that he can stand on it is wonderful! He is getting stronger following his surgery and we rejoice!

A few times recently Matthew has been dropped off at therapy by a family member or his personal assistant and told to drive himself in his power chair to therapy (after being given instructions on where to go). So, he was unloaded at the hospital door, went down the hall and turned to the right to therapy and got there just fine.

When he returns home, Matthew is able to back up the ramp in the garage, open the door and get in the house. These are the very beginning steps toward independence. In time we hope Matthew will be able to initiate the actions rather than needing someone else to tell him to do it.

Matthew's love for art is able to be cultivated with the Art Museum in Sedalia. He REALLY enjoyed a visit to the Art Museum a few weeks ago and drove around on his own examining the art work. He could spend hours there, sitting and studying each piece, then moving onto the next.

Matthew can play catch again! He will wear the baseball mitt on his left hand and Lucas throws him the ball and Matthew knew just what to do to catch the ball. They played catch for quite a while and Matthew did well catching the ball. Matthew's right hand is getting stronger. He now shakes hands with his right hand and his grip is pretty good!

In speech therapy, Matthew is given an open sentence with three options to complete the sentence. He usually picks the right and appropriate option. More progress! He continues to work with money and time in other therapy sessions and makes little steps forward in his abilities.

We congratulate Andrew on his graduation on May 20, 2007. He is a terrific young man and we are very proud of him!!!!! Matthew is also proud of his brother and was pointing to him when he spotted him in the line of graduates, saying, "Brother, Andrew"! Matthew did very well at Andrew's graduation and handled the noise level and number of people without any problems. He was happy to see everybody and enjoyed people coming over to talk to him. He was very attentive for the whole ceremony which is a tremendous improvement in his concentration level.

"O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high; I cannot attain it. . . I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Psalm 139:1-6, 14

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 5/16/07

2007-05-16T06:10:00.000-07:00

Matthew has been experiencing discomfort and stiffness for the last month and hasn't been able to bend his knees. The doctors found out that something was wrong with the baclofen pump that administers the medicine for his tone. So, yesterday they performed surgery on Matthew and found out the catheter from the pump to the spinal column wasn't working and had to be replaced. It is possible (but not certain) that scar tissue around the area might have caused a "kink" in the line. All went well during surgery and Matthew should be able to go home later today.

Another thing that was anticipated in the coming weeks for Matthew was surgery on his left foot. After wearing the boot/brace on his foot for a year now, there hasn't been enough improvement in his ability to flex his foot and standing is difficult for Matthew. So, while he was in surgery yesterday, the surgeon took care of that problem as well and was able to lengthen the tendons. Matthew is wearing a short cast that he will keep for six weeks. Next week he should be fine standing on that cast. We are very hopeful that this procedure will help Matthew begin taking steps.

Please pray for a speedy recovery from the surgery and procedures! We give thanks that all looks good so far.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 5/10/07

2007-05-10T11:13:00.000-07:00

The Lord is good. Let us thank him for all the blessings he has showered upon us and pray that he care for the people in Kansas that were hit hard by tornadoes.

Matthew continues to progress with his speech. He is responding in simple original sentences that he comes up with. The speech therapists and his parents are working with him to challenge his speech and cognitive abilities. They ask him to "tell me about a book - what is it like", or "tell me about a banana". Matthew is also working with $$ and telling time - basics for us, but essential for Matthew to re-learn.

We're also glad that Matthew is drawing pictures more and more. He prefers to draw pictures that he comes up with - no more copying other pictures. He especially likes to draw faces. Matthew also enjoys finding his way through a maze on paper. He does very well finding the starting point and avoiding the "road blocks" to find the ending point of the maze. Another writing accomplishment is Matthew wrote his name in cursive with his left hand. It is very small but he was able to do it unassisted.

This is an exciting month for Andrew. He graduates from high school on May 20th and is looking forward to college next fall. The bond between Andrew and Matthew is still strong. Matthew perks up whenever Andrew is around. It's good for Matthew to be with his brothers.

Matthew qualified for a government program that gives him the benefit of having a personal assistant. This man will be with Matthew five hours a day, four days a week and he will take Matthew to and from therapy and other activities. Thank the Lord for another blessing!

God be with you this day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's Godmother

Update - 4/30/07

2007-04-30T07:19:00.000-07:00

"It is good to give thanks to the Lord, to sing praises to your name, O Most High;
to declare your steadfast love in the morning, and your faithfulness by night, . . ." Ps. 92: 1-2

We give thanks to our Lord for continued healing and progress for Matthew. We especially thank Him for the incredible movement in Matthew's right leg. Last Saturday (Apr. 21st) my children and I had the privilege of visiting the Kurz family in Columbia at Rusk. While we were there, Matthew raised his right leg SEVERAL times when sitting in his wheelchair. It was AWESOME! He even held his right ankle up for 10 seconds or more. This was the first time he's had substantial movement in his right leg. Since that Saturday Matthew has moved his right leg several times, not just the foot but the whole leg. Praise the Lord!

We had a terrific visit with Matthew and were greatly impressed with Matthew's progress. He definitely isn't the same young man we saw several months ago at Thanksgiving (as my husband was able to attest to as well). We laughed and joked and had a wonderful time. It warmed my heart to be assured that Matthew clearly knows who we are (even if he wasn't sure about my son who has changed and grown ALOT in the last year). I was also very impressed with how well Matthew drives the electric wheelchair. He's smooth and steady going down the hall or down the sidewalk outside and turns corners with ease. It was also terrific to see him get into bed. He still needs a good deal of help to transition from the wheelchair to the bed, but he is doing a lot of the effort himself.

Friday, April 27th Matthew returned home and is settling back into the family routine. He is glad to be home with his family and back in his own room. He will continue with outpatient therapy and his parents will work with him a great deal at home to continue making progress with his physical challenges. Hopefully he can go back to Rusk Rehab in Columbia in the future for more intense therapy and continue working toward being able to walk.

Just a reminder, if you'd like to send Matthew cards, the home address is:

4130 Bluegrass Drive
Sedalia, MO 65301

Have a blessed week!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/13/07

2007-04-13T12:15:00.000-07:00

Christ is risen! He is risen indeed! Alleluia!!!!

Hope you all had a blessed Easter!

It's official - Matthew's stay at Rusk has been extended to April 27th. Two extensions is all they can allow at this time so Matthew will definitely be going home to Sedalia on the 27th. Good timing for him to go home - he can be there for Andrew's graduation celebration.

Matthew came in to Rusk this recent visit as a "2 person transfer" and he'll be leaving as a "1 person transfer". That's great progress! When going from the bed to the chair or from the chair to the bed, 85% of the effort is from Matthew's own strength and effort. This is TREMENDOUS help for his caregivers. He can get both legs up on the bed by himself, adjusts his legs and body and needs a little assistance with the right leg and a little verbal guidance along the way. And of course, he's very proud of himself when he accomplishes this!

Matthew's speech continues to improve. He's talking more and he has more accurate responses to questions. Many times he will respond to someone else's questions or statements with simple sentences of his own and he's not always copying back what the other person said but changes it to be an appropriate response of his own.

The artist in Matthew is starting to shine forth. He is doing very well with drawing - specifically with copying simple black and white pictures and he takes great pains to get the details right. He loves to use the Etch-A-Sketch and it's impressive for his abilities the details he puts in his etchings.

Another exciting development is Matthew is now beginning to identify numbers. When given very simple addition and subtraction problems, he has gotten 9 out of 10 right - on the first try. When I say simple, I'm referring to addition like 4+6=10. You can tell he's thinking it through and then he will either point to the answer on paper or will say the answer.

This past Sunday Matthew went to church with his family and he did amazingly well during the service. When the congregation would stand, Matthew would attempt to get out of his chair to stand as well (but didn't seem to remember he had a seatbelt on). In therapy Matthew continues to work on pulling up on a bar to get to a standing position. In future therapy sessions he will need to work on balance and trunk control, but his potential is good. The problems he had with his left foot and sores delayed his progress and his tendons tightened with inactivity over the months, but with flexing and therapy it has greatly improved.

Matthew still doesn't want to eat a variety of food and no coaxing or cajoling will work. He's stubborn and when it comes from his own initiative he will use a utensil (spoon or fork). This week he picked up a spoon and ate his pudding without any request from others or complaint from himself.

He continues to show more movement and strength in his right hand. He can grip with his right hand and also release with the thumb and first finger.

Matthew is showing more focused driving in the wheelchair. He will now drive several feet without stopping to fiddle with his glasses or run his hand through his hair. Maybe it won't be long and he can go for walks with his family without lagging behind with his stops and starts. (And maybe it won't be too long and we'll start having WARM weather again so he'll want to go outside!!!!)

A few weeks ago my husband had the opportunity to stop in Columbia and see Matthew. He thoroughly enjoyed the visit and remarked that the young man at Rusk now is certainly NOT the same young man we saw at Thanksgiving. He is expressive and responsive and LOVES visitors. If you visit Matthew, be prepared for him to blow you a kiss!

Have a wonderful weekend and a blessed Eastertide!!!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 3/25/07

2007-03-25T17:22:00.000-07:00

More wonderful news! Matthew's therapists and doctors had a meeting last week and they have decided to keep him at Rusk longer because he is progressing very well. Now his projected stay will continue until April 12.

One of Matthew's very big accomplishments is sliding himself from his bed to his chair and back again. A sliding board is put under him, he pulls himself up to a sitting position and then inches his way from one to the other. Now I just described it as something very easy, but it takes a great deal of strength and patience for Matthew to do it. He needs a little assistance to adjust his legs and he had to be taught every step, but he's now lifting his right leg with his left hand and moves it over, then moves his left leg over, etc.

This Monday Matthew will get to order his own power chair. He demonstrated to the staff at Rusk that he knew how to maneuver an electric chair around obstacles, making turns, and navigating down a hallway. His previous experience at rehab in Sedalia helped him get the practice he needs. What an incredible feeling of independence for Matthew!

Matthew is now holding his own balance better when standing - WITHOUT holding onto something. This takes good trunk control. Someone needs to distract him so that he doesn't focus on what he's doing, but he can do it.

Getting Matthew to eat has been a challenge for his caregivers for quite some time, but there has been some improvement. With some coaxing, patience and prompting to start each bite, Matthew has begun to eat with a fork. Once he does it several times with persistent teaching, he catches on and continues to eat without a struggle. He's still not eating and drinking as much as he should throughout the day so he will need the feeding tube for a while longer. Thankfully he is eating breakfast now which he previously fought against.

Matthew's speech is showing improvement. He's starting to appropriately change a noun to pronoun in a sentence. He can repeat any word you tell him, but he's also doing well with coming up with a word that you want him to say. For instance, if you show him a picture of an orange and ask him to name it, he'll only need a small clue such as the first letter or the first syllable and then he names it. This requires high level thinking so it shows great potential for Matthew.

You may remember from previous updates that Matthew is able to use his left side much more than his right. We are thankful that he is now showing greater strength in his right hand. He can squeeze an exercise ball with his whole hand - not just his fingers or part of his hand, but the whole hand can squeeze the ball!

Other things that Matthew is able to do on his own are getting his shirt on and off by himself and he can now untie his own shoe. It means so much to Matthew to be able to do these things on his own.

Matthew continues to be a big jokester and likes to copy others and tease the staff at Rusk. He also loves to blow kisses. He's a very affectionate guy. Thanks so much for sending Matthew cards. He stacks them up, then puts them in a line. He re-reads them and if they are funny he laughs again. Matthew gets a lot of enjoyment out of those cards.

Have a blessed day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 3/8/07

2007-03-08T13:16:00.000-08:00

Matthew's doctors and therapists are so pleased with his progress in the week and a half he's been at Rusk. They have set a lot of goals for Matthew and are convinced that he has great potential! We rejoice!!!!!!!

Earlier this week Matthew was able to use the AutoAmbulator for the first time. The AutoAmbulator supports the patient while robotics assist the patient's legs as they walk over a treadmill and it simulates normal walking motion (info taken from HealthSouth.com web site). For Matthew it can help to "jump start" the brain to clue into messages from the body - "oh, yeah, this is how you walk" and retrain the body all over again how to walk. Matthew was in the AutoAmbulator for a half hour the first time and he did great. He didn't complain of pain and that is a tremendous achievement considering the stiffness of his muscles. He is scheduled to use the AutoAmbulator every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 4:00 p.m.

The therapists have been doing lots of stretches with Matthew's legs and this has helped a great deal to loose him up. They have commented that the stretches the Kurzs did at home have paid off because Matthew is in good shape considering his overall condition. Of course, he's a lot tighter than you or me, but he has loosened up.

Matthew's strength is increasing in his upper body which can be seen in his ability to push himself out of a chair. And he's more secure when he stands in therapy sessions. He's getting stronger!

The one thing that hasn't gotten better is his eating. He refuses to eat a great deal of the food put before him, except for fruit. But don't worry - he is getting the nutrients his body needs from a variety of other sources.

Thanks so much for sending cards! Matthew loves to get mail and he insists on opening his cards himself. He laughs and laughs when it's a funny card. And everyone around him loves to hear his laughter! In case you didn't read the last update, be sure to check it out. The address for Rusk Rehab is in the Feb. 27th update.

Have a great day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 2/27/07

2007-02-27T10:28:00.000-08:00

Good news!!!

Matthew settled in at Rusk Rehabilitation Center in Columbia, MO on Monday, Feb. 26th. The current plan is that he stay there for four weeks and at the end of that time they will evaluate his progress and determine if he can stay longer. He's in the same room as before (except he's not by the window this time). The staff at Rusk was happy to see Matthew and he was all smiles to see them. He showed signs of recognizing them, especially Everett who was his nurse on the trip to Cole Camp for graduation last year.

Today (Tuesday) is a big day of evaluations and testing. I'm sure Matthew will be exhausted at the end of the day. Dr. Ruppright and others will be documenting his current status and chart out a plan for his therapy with the goal of Matthew leaving Rusk VERTICAL!!!! Let's pray that becomes a reality!!

Matthew would love to receive your cards and letters! Please send them to the following address:

Matthew Kurz
Room 234
Rusk Rehabilitation Center
315 Business Loop 70 W.
Columbia, MO 65203

And the funnier the card you send him, the better. It's pretty clear to those around Matthew that he can read his cards. He will follow along with his eyes and when it's a funny card he laughs at the appropriate time (without any clues from anyone). I think that's incredible! So, let's give Matthew lots of opportunities to laugh.

One more bit of good news, last week at therapy Matthew was asked to draw a snowman just like the one the therapist drew. And he was able to draw the snowman all on his own with his left hand. We pray the artist in Matthew is able to re-emurge!

Have a wonderful day in the Lord!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 2/12/07

2007-02-13T07:31:00.000-08:00

Last week Matthew stood three times (pulling himself up) which was a major accomplishment because of ingrown toenail surgery on 2/5 on the other foot. Previously the pain would have been too much for him, but he stood despite the pain and discomfort. Please pray that the ingrown toenail heals well so progress can continue with his therapy.

Matthew continues to talk more and is cheerful. Last week he played tic-tac-toe with Mom for the first time.

As of last week, he's playing with activities on his computer but soon he will have formal training online as well as training with the therapist at rehab.

Matthew is eating very well. This is a great blessing considering in the past he didn't want to eat following surgery or when some part of his body was in pain. He is eating bigger portions at mealtime and he feeds himself. He doesn't like to be fed by someone else. So, right now he's eating with his fingers. Down the road he'll get training with how to use utensils.

It isn't confirmed yet, but things look good for Matthew to return to Rusk Rehab in Columbia, MO for the intensive therapy they can provide. We'll let you know as soon as the official word is given.

Hope you are safe and staying warm at this time of wintry weather across the country.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 1/26/07

2007-01-26T10:49:00.000-08:00

Yesterday marks the one year anniversary of Matthew and Andrew's accident and we thank the Lord that both of them are alive and well and that Matthew has come so far and made wonderful progress in a year's time!

A year later and Matthew is driving again!!!! An electric wheelchair, that is!!! Friday he got to do it for the first time and he was very excited and not really focused. He ran into quite a few things. Monday he had another shot at it and did really well. He was very intent and serious as he drove the wheelchair this time and did much better. He maneuvered around obstacles, took the wheelchair into the elevator, did some tight maneuvering around poles, went through handicapped accessible doors, etc. It took lots of concentration on Matthew's part, but he did very well.

Matthew is now using his right hand to shake hands with people. It is wonderful that he is working with his right hand more and more. Another improvement that is great to see is his body strength. He can sit up in bed, holding himself up completely without support from others for 15 MINUTES!

This week was a busy week with several visits with doctors. On Monday two new neurologists working with Matthew's case met him for the first time. They had only read Matthew's file and seen the notes on Matthew's history and progress. So, when they saw him in person they were amazed. The young man in the files didn't seem to fit the responsive, happy young man before them. A CAT scan was done and there is still a little bit of fluid on Matthew's brain but it has reduced a great deal.

The other doctor visit this week was with Matthew's primary physician, Dr. Rupright in Columbia. He was so pleased with Matthew's progress and says Matthew is doing beautifully! Because Matthew is showing such great improvement, Dr. Rupright is recommending that Matthew come back to Rusk Rehab Center in Columbia for more intensive therapy. At Rusk they would use the auto-ambulator which gets Matthew up and standing and then walking. This device moves the legs for the person and gives a "wake up call" to the brain in how to walk again. Rusk would also spend more time strengthening Matthew's right arm as well as work intently on his speech. And hopefully in time Matthew would have his own electric wheelchair. The daily regimen at Rusk would be geared to enhance and spur Matthew onto even greater improvement, building on what he's already accomplished.

The computer arrived yesterday!! It will take a little time for Matthew and parents to learn how to operate it fully, but he did do some puzzles on it already and he's "soaking it up"!

Matthew's voice is getting stronger and stronger every day. His chuckle has become a deep laugh. While I was on the phone getting the report about Matthew, I could hear him in the background blowing on a tonette and it sounded like he was enjoying making noise. Blowing helps to strengthen his muscles in his throat and esophagus.

Matthew's come such a long way. We give thanks to our Lord and Savior for all the healing and recovery of Matthew's brain.

"It is good to give thanks to the Lord,
to sing praises to your name, O Most High;
to declare your steadfast love in the morning,
and your faithfulness by night,
to the music of the lute and the harp,
to the melody of the lyre.
For you, O Lord, have made me glad by your work;
at the works of your hands I sing for joy."
Psalm 92:1-4

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 1/12/07

2007-01-12T09:52:00.000-08:00

"Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I say, Rejoice!"

As we begin a new year, we often examine the past year and consider and make plans for the new year. We often take this time to be thankful for all the blessings Our Lord has bestowed on us. Well, today and everyday we are thankful for Matthew's continuing progress and especially for the new accomplishments I will share with you today.

This week Matthew pulled HIMSELF up to a standing position using the parallel bar during a therapy session. He needed a small amount of assistance, but did most of it himself. He grabbed onto the bar with his left hand and hooked his right arm around the bar and worked to pull himself up. It took alot of effort, but HE DID IT!

Matthew continues to be cheerful and all smiles (except at meal time)! He responds to greetings quicker such as saying "Good Morning" without the pause. When he is asked "How are you?", his usual responses are "Good", "Fine" or "Awesome"! His speaking is becoming clearer and comes out quicker.

Several weeks ago Matthew got a cold and was feeling pretty crummy. It is especially when he isn't feeling well that he refuses to eat food. So, he had to be tube-fed for a while. Wednesday he ate lunch again for the first time in three weeks. He didn't want to hold the utensil himself but he did accept Mom feeding him. The day before he fed himself apples. Wednesday he also drank from a cup five times. It's great to have his interest in drinking from the cup return.

There are more "firsts" this week! Matthew rolled himself over to the side of the bed unassisted for the first time. This is a great accomplishment!

Another first was Matthew used his RIGHT arm to flick styrofoam shapes laying in front of him off the table. He did this over and over with his RIGHT arm! Matthew was thrilled! Then someone would put one of the styrofoam shapes between his fingers on his right hand and instructed him to get rid of the shape. He lifted his right arm up by the side of his head and then wiggled his fingers until the toy was dislodged. And he repeated this again and again. The therapists and his parents are excited to see Matthew's right side begin "waking up"! It appears his brain is beginning to recognize the signals for the right side of his body. Every day there is something new that he does with his right side.

Matthew's recall of saying what an oject is is getting better. He is shown flashcards of different objects like "coffee cup", "radio", "shirt", etc. and he is able to identify the objects. He can also count to 30 unassisted and before the #'s 6,7,8,9 were slurred in his speech, but now they are clear and understandable.

Recently Matthew saw an eye doctor that specializes in care of patients with head trauma and other vision disabilities. This doctor was pleased to say that Matthew's vision is normal. His right eye is a little blurry, so the doctor recommended getting small objects like beads for Matthew to pick up. This will help to improve his focus and strengthen his eye.

More good news!!!! - Matthew qualified to get an assisted technology computer (touch screen). The therapists and parents go for training this coming Tuesday on how to use the computer. Then Matthew will be introduced to it. This computer will be attached to Matthew's wheelchair and will go with him always as he needs it. The programs are designed to advance according to Matthew's abilities or skills as he continues to learn. In the future Matthew will be able to keep track of his schedule and be reminded by the computer to do things. This is crucial for brain trauma patients (I think we all need that at times, don't we?!). And that's just the tip of the iceberg of what Matthew will be able to do with this computer. We look forward to hearing how this assists Matthew in his recapturing of skills that we all take for granted.

That's all the good news I have for today. Thank you for all your support and love and prayers for Matthew and the Kurz family!!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 12/23/06

2006-12-23T20:47:00.000-08:00

Matthew is singing!!!! Last night a group of carolers came to the Kurz' house and they were invited in to sing for the family. When they sang "Silent Night", Matthew joined in and sang along. When the song is slower, Matthew can keep up, but if it gets to a fast part, he shakes his head and has to take a break. He does have some inflection in his voice and goes up or down some. What a joyous sound!!!

Matthew is also saying the Lord's Prayer with his family. Praise the Lord! He can also say short sentences on his own with is a great improvement from the one word at a time. It used to be that he would repeat word for word when someone directed him to repeat a sentence, but now he can repeat the short simple sentence by himself.

On Tuesday at therapy, Matthew was able to sit up on the therapy mat (which lies on a table) on his own and held his own weight for 15 minutes. He was also able to catch himself if he felt like he was losing his balance. This is an increase from the 3-5 minutes he was previously able to do.

Matthew still has strong tone in his right bicep and the muscle is very tight. This has been tight for 10 months now. It can very painful for Matthew. But the good news is that Matthew can put his right hand behind his head (with help) and it doesn't bother him. The therapists and family have to faithfully exercise Matthew's arm regularly to help limber this up in time.

I've mentioned in the past that Matthew has been able to drink from a cup, but he is doing it so much better and holding the cup on his own. This is good news! Matthew will eat fruit on his own, picking it up with his left hand and eating it. It is still a struggle to get him to eat other food items at meal time. Be assured that Matthew is getting the nutrients he needs, even when he doesn't want to cooperate at mealtime.

My apologies for not keeping you more regularly updated on Matthew's progress. Sometimes my schedule and Matthew's parents' schedules don't coincide well for getting a "news flash", especially this month with busy Advent and Christmas preparations. The Kurz family would like you to know they are very thankful for all the prayers and support that you lift up for them. They wish you all a Merry Christmas and a joyful New Year. This Christmas is very special for them because they are so very thankful to have both Matthew and Andrew with them - alive and well!

God be with you all this Christmas!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 11/27/06

2006-11-27T09:39:00.000-08:00

Thanksgiving Blessings!!!!!

I am joyfully sharing this update with you after having spent Thanksgiving with the Kurz family! What a privilege it was to be with them again and see Matthew's progress firsthand!! When we walked in the front door of their new house, Matthew greeted us (my husband, myself and our children) with a BIG smile and said very clearly, "hi". He also smiled and chuckled at our rambunctious beagle puppies that we brought with us. What a tremendous change from the Matthew we last saw in June!

Matthew readily smiles and chuckles at funny things that happen throughout the day. And he works really hard at saying words with assistance. He said "Happy Thanksgiving" and was even able to get it out without prompting a few times. He also "blows kisses" and shows his affectionate side that we trust is not lost. Matthew loves to have company and watches all the activity going on around him with delight. It's easy to see that Matthew is paying attention and is glad to interact with anyone that will talk to him. On Friday we took Matthew to see his grandfather, Norbert Kaiser in Cole Camp (Grandma too, of course). He traveled really well and was a "great sport" getting in and out of the van (what a process that is). We also went to see Aunt Paula Heisterberg and Matthew made his first visit to someone else's home! Thank goodness Aunt Paula has a house with doorways made wide enough for wheelchairs.

Taking Matthew for an outing is one example of the extensive prep work that has to go into every activity for him. You don't just hop in the vehicle with Matthew and go. Thank the Lord for the technology to add ramps to vans and allow access for wheelchairs!!! It takes a lot of strength to be the caregiver and chauffeur - those straps have to be super-tight to lock the wheelchair in place.

Matthew is VERY blessed to have such a terrific family to support and care for him. His parents have learned so much in the last 10 months about caring for a head trauma patient and they do an amazing job of being his "nurses". I helped Brenda get Matthew ready for the day on Saturday and after we finally finished (shampoo hair with him lying in bed, check the skin around the feeding tube, put clothes on a 6+ foot tall young man that can't do most of the effort, lift him into the wheelchair [well, Erich had to help with that part - takes muscles!], brush teeth, trim nails, shave, put the brace on his left foot, as well as shoes), and he was dressed and in his chair, I asked Brenda, "How do you get anything else done?" She responded, "I don't!" Her days are now devoted to Matthew's full-time care. And that's in addition to any therapy throughout the day. Even though she is exhausted and worn out a lot, she wouldn't have it any other way. Matthew is truly loved by his family. (Thanks to the nurses that are there for periods of time so that Brenda and Rev. Kurz can get some sleep!)

Mealtime is not one of Matthew's favorite times of the day. I've been told that those who suffer brain trauma injury either can't get enough food (once they are eating solid food again) and will gorge themselves OR they don't want food and would go days without ever expressing hunger. Matthew apparently is more like the later example. When Matthew is told it's time to eat, he wrinkles up his nose and turns away or makes some other negative facial expression. Then the struggle begins with getting the food in his mouth. He fights the process and gives his caregiver a challenge, but once he opens his mouth (and he usually does) he chews the food up and swallows just fine. There are times though that Matthew will take the food in his fingers and willingly feeds himself.

I would like to express my thanks to the Sedalia Democrat for the wonderful article they had on the front page of the Thanksgiving Day issue. They portrayed Matthew's story with accuracy and sensitivity. The article is entitled "Faith, Family and Friends" and if you are interested in reading it, you can find the article on their website under the news category from the last two weeks: www.sedaliademocrat.com

Now, to wrap up my "epistle" for this update, Matthew's family would like me to share with you part of an essay that Matthew wrote for his Honor's English class just a few weeks before the accident. His father found the essay on the computer fairly recently and we hope that it is as inspiring to you as it was to us:

The assignment was to write about "My Utopia". Matthew described all sorts of things he would enjoy in a perfect world such as Lamborghinis for everyone who wants one and being able to drive as fast as a person wanted to and never run out of gas. There would also be no sickness or deformities in his utopia AND everyone would have a perfect understanding of the world right from birth so there would be no school to go to. (You can bet he was looking forward to graduation!) These are just a FEW examples of Matthew's description of his utopia. But - in the final paragraph he has these very profound words to share:

"Now the final question is: what would I choose, my imagined utopia, or the real world. I would choose the real world. Some may find this silly but I believe that the real utopia awaits me in heaven. Besides that, the real world is the better choice in the end because it makes me a better person when it's all said and done. I will go through more adversities and struggles in this life, making me stronger and wiser than if I were to choose the carefree utopia of my imagination. Things would be too simple in my utopia - what would be the point of human compassion and hope? No matter how much I may not like it at times, the real world is the best."

To compliment Matthew's words, Romans 5:3-5 states: "Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into his hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us."

In a few days, please check back for an update on "Brothers."

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 11/13/06

2006-11-13T20:03:00.000-08:00

It's another day to rejoice!

Matthew turned on his voice and spoke today! With effort and much concentration he said his name, "Mom" and "I love you". He is paying close attention to others and how they speak and form words and is attempting to get the words out himself.

Another accomplishment is standing longer. He was in the standing frame today and was able to stand up for five minutes!

And there's more: Matthew managed to drink through a straw several times AND hold the water in his mouth. This are all important milestones in his development and recovery!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 11/6/06

2006-11-06T19:37:00.000-08:00

EXCITING NEWS!!!!!

Matthew stood up today!!!!

During his physical therapy session he was assisted by therapists and a sling, but Matthew made alot of the effort on his own by leaning forward and grabbing onto the parallel bars with his left hand to help pull himself up. When those in the room were cheering him on, they told Matthew to look in the mirror and see himself standing. He got a big grin on his face when he saw his accomplishment!!! It took a lot of effort and he couldn't stand for long, but it was wonderful!!! Matthew had to adjust his weight to his right side because his left ankle isn't strong enough to hold the weight.

Praise the Lord for BIG victories!!!!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 10/31/06

2006-10-31T06:42:00.000-08:00

Thank you for your patience! I've had a very busy couple of months and then connecting my schedule with the Kurz family's schedule has made it difficult to get an update. But it's worth the wait because I have good news.

In the past week and a half, Matthew has made tremendous improvement. His speech therapist is thrilled with his progress. Matthew can now puff out his cheeks and blow and he is consistently able to move his mouth the form the shape necessary for consonants and vowels (but his voice has not turned on yet). He can also blow bubbles with a straw in a cup. He's still working on sucking liquid up through the straw. He gets halfway and can't keep it up. He can't hold large amounts of liquid in his mouth, but he is able to hold small amounts of liquid for a short period of time. He's doing several new things every day!

Last week Andrew was "goofing around" with Matthew and made Matthew laugh for the first time (more like a chuckle). It was music to the family's ears! Matthew's personality continues to show through more and more (the sly jokester).

Previously I mentioned that Matthew was pulling his self up. He is now doing it on a consistent basis and he's helping the person dressing him. He's also doing a better job of holding his balance (up to four minutes) and when he feels himself leaning, he will use his left hand to grab onto the side of the bed and correct his position.

Matthew is starting to help with his personal care. He will hold his toothbrush (with the person caring for him - but sometimes will do it unassisted). He usually needs guidance on completing the job and doing it correctly, but the good news is that he is DOING it. Before he wouldn't have anything to do with brushing his teeth.

Matthew's ability to communicate in response to questions has improved. He will now nod his head yes when asked a question - most of the time. He's getting more consistent in communication. Matthew will also mimic facial expressions. His brothers love to make faces at him and have him mimic the faces back at them.

Sunday Matthew was able to go to church for Reformation Day service. This was his 2nd visit to church. The first time he was not comfortable, but this time he was very calm. His mother watched his eye movements during the service and singing from the hymnal and she noticed that he was following along in the hymnal as she moved her finger across the page and he would look at the appropriate place on the page.

Yesterday was another day for a visit to Matthew's main doctor at Rusk in Columbia. He continues to be pleased with Matthew's progress and even decreased some more of Matthew's medications.

The Kurz family will soon be in a home of their own and grandma can have her house back! After November 8, the whole family will be in their new home in Sedalia, MO which is the town just north of Cole Camp (not far from the parishes that Pastor Kurz serves). Their new address will be:

4130 Bluegrass Dr.
Sedalia, MO 65301

(They will continue to use their cell phones instead of land lines for the time being.)

The Lord be with you this day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 10/7/06

2006-10-07T12:13:00.000-07:00

Matthew is doing a wonderful job pulling himself to a sitting position. His abdomen muscles are getting stronger all the time. He is also getting better at holding himself up and he also manages to correct his posture if he starts to lean to one side. He can hold his own body weight up to four minutes when sitting.

Matthew is also sleeping better through the night. Recently he's up to eight nights in a row that he has slept through the night. This is great for Matthew's healing and recovery (as well as Mom and Dad's needed rest).

More good news - Matthew can recognize numbers consistently. He can point to the numbers when directed to and knows which is which. I don't have the official terminology and explanation for this, but it's my understanding that there is a part of the brain that recognizes numbers and a part of the brain that recognizes letters. So far, Matthew's ability to recognize letters is sporatic and inconsistent.

Therapists are getting Matthew to use his left hand more and more to write and draw with a pencil. He used to get frustrated and throw the pencil. Now he will hold onto it longer and scribble all over the paper.

Here's a few miscellaneous bits of information that show progress: Matthew's depth perception has improved; his teasing nature shows forth once in a while toward the people caring for him; and Matthew can lift his left leg off the bed on command (he can't lift his right leg on command, but when he's relaxed and not thinking about it, he will lift his right leg). Next week in therapy, Matthew will go from the tilt table to the standing frame.

I'd like to ask for your prayers for a specific concern. Caring and transporting Matthew to and from therapy and all the lifting that has to be done is causing great physical strain on Brenda's body (since she is his primary care person during the day). The Kurzs are applying for state help to get daytime help caring for Matthew to assist her. We pray that they are able to get someone who understands head trauma and is a very caring person to work with Matthew.

Hope you are enjoying the beauty of God's world this fall.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

September 17th Update

2006-09-17T20:54:00.000-07:00

Some good things have been happening recently that we are very excited about!

On September 7th Matthew had an appointment and evaluation at the Assistive Technology Evaluation Center in Columbia to see about possible resources that might be available, especially devices that help with communication. Matthew was tested with several different systems, and there were great results with a touch-screen computer. Puzzles were put on the screen to see what Matthew might be able to do. With some he had to drag the 'piece' to its correct location, and he had no trouble putting several of them together. Pictures can be put on the screen to do things such as turning lights or a radio on or off. Also, a keyboard screen can be used for messages, and Matthew did type out his name with assistance from Mom. As a result of the evaluation, Matthew qualified for his own touch-screen computer system, which should be ready in about eight weeks.

Matthew is vocalizing more and forming consonant sounds. One day at therapy, it sounded like he attempted to say "bye" to his mother. The family is noticing more cognitive abilities as Matthew is coming off some of his medications, so this is another great sign.

The therapy Matthew has been receiving at ResCare will now be supplemented by therapy at Bothwell Hospital in Sedalia--there are days the therapists aren't available at ResCare, and this will fill in the gaps. The whole family is excited that Matthew will have further therapy during the week.

In response to the question regarding sending funds for Matthew's needs,the address is still: Matthew Kurz Medical Fund, c/o Citizens-Farmers Bank
P.O. Box 219 Cole Camp, MO 65325

Many thanks for your continued prayers, support, and encouragement!

Joel Kurz (Matthew's Uncle), filling in for a swamped Rachel Asburry

Update - 9/5/06

2006-09-05T05:36:00.000-07:00

Sorry for the long hiatus from a "Matthew Update"!

Matthew has been turning the light switch on and off when going in and out of a room (with his left hand). Seems like he is eager to do more and more for himself.

There is improvement all the time with his ability to hold a straw in his mouth. Matthew can't suck up the straw but we hope in time that will come. In the meantime, someone has to squeeze the water into his mouth. Matthew will hold the water in his mouth and swallow much of the time. In the past he would take the water into his mouth and then spit it out.

Matthew saw Dr. Ruprite (his primary doctor at Rusk in Columbia) and he was very happy with Matthew's improvement. Dr. Ruprite decided to decrease some of Matthew's medication because Matthew is doing so well.

The Kurz' are still discussing with doctors and rehab centers about treatment and assistance for correcting Matthew's left foot and how it is pointed inward.

Things have changed with the rehab center in Sedalia because of governmental regulations. There are restrictions on how much the rehab center can assist head-trauma patients. So, now his rehab has to be done "piece-meal" both at home and at the resource center. This involves lots of running around for Matthew's parents as well as now there is the need to do more of his intensive therapy at home. Matthew will need to have a therapy mat (the largest size) and other therapy tools to continue making progress. The size he needs runs about $500 or more. Your help would be greatly appreciated with this need (if you are willing and able).

Hope you all had a safe and enjoyable Labor Day weekend.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 8/22/06

2006-08-22T18:06:00.000-07:00

The Kurz family has returned from a short, much-needed vacation. They were refreshed and renewed by the diversion and now it's time for the boys to go back to school and Mom and Dad to continue with their vocations. Matthew was in good hands while they were gone with Uncle Joel and the nurses that come in shifts to the home. Uncle Joel is very compassionate in his care of his nephew and he does a very good job with Matthew.

Matthew has moved on his own quite a bit recently, especially his legs. His caregivers have always had to move his legs for him and help reposition him by doing all the effort with his legs. Matthew has begun to move his legs on his own some - moving his legs over where one will be hanging off the edge of the bed. Matthew has also pushed himself up off the surface of a bed and raised up on his elbows when he was suppose to be resting between therapy sessions. He came close to falling off the bed, so now he can't be left alone.

Matthew continues to work on making the "p" sound. He still doesn't say words, but he is trying hard to form the letters.

The surgery for his left leg was scheduled for this Thursday, August 24, but that has been postponed because Matthew has an infection on the side of his toe and is on antibiotics. So, surgery is not possible while there is an infection. Hopefully this will clear up soon.

I hope all of you are doing well and if your children are going back to school now, may they have a terrific year and enjoy learning.

Rachel Asburry
Commission on Worship

Update - 8/13/06

2006-08-13T20:32:00.000-07:00

Last week was a good week for Matthew. On Wednesday he saw two of his doctors in Columbia - one was the baclofen doctor. He refilled Matthew's medication and he commented on how good Matthew looks. Matthew also saw his neurology doctor and he was greatly pleased at how well Matthew looks. He was very encouraged by his examination of Matthew.

Matthew has done more with his right hand for the first time. Usually he runs his left hand through his hair, but last week he ran his right hand through his hair for the first time. Matthew continues to take his left hand and manipulate his right hand and work at gaining activity with his right hand. He wants it to move as much as all of us.

A trapeze bar has been installed above Matthew's bed and in time they hope that Matthew will eventually pull himself up with the bar. Initially Matthew grabbed onto the bar with his left hand, but as time goes along we hope his strength will increase and he can pull himself up.

On August 24th Matthew will have the surgery to cut the tendons and lengthen them in his left leg to correct the dropped foot problem.

Matthew's parents have noticed that he seems to be more and more clear in his head since he's been home and he has more appropriate responses to requests and better cognitive awareness. He isn't consistent in his responses yet, but he is clearer.

The family is moving ahead with the purchase of a home that is being constructed south of Sedalia. If all goes well, they may be able to move into the home by late fall. There are numerous things that the house needs in order to make it handicapped accessible for Matthew. I realize that money has been a touchy subject in the past months on this blog, so I will preface the list below with the following encouragement. There are many people that are asking for ways to financially help the Kurz family with items for a home that Matthew can live in. This blog is one way that people can find out what is needed and then take action - IF they so choose. Please realize that there are people all over the U.S. that want to help the Kurz family and this is their only source of information.

A case worker is seeking government aid for Matthew's home - which could be up to $5,000 for the whole home, but this is only the TIP of the iceberg. So, if you would like to make a contribution to help make the Kurz' new home handicapped accessible for Matthew (because LONG-TERM care is inevitable), you may send your gift to the realtor and it will go directly to the home expenses:

make the check out to: Matthew Kurz Medical Fund and send to:

Tina Roquet
3300 W. 16th
Sedalia, MO 65301
for questions or clarification: 660-827-3550

Here's a list of items/structures, etc. that are needed for Matthew in the home:

1. Ramp in the garage that leads into the home: $250
2. Main handicapped shower that Matthew can be rolled into: $2000
3. Handicapped bath chair (many have suggested that they get a bath chair at Wal-Mart that would be inexpensive, but Matthew would fall right out of one of those chairs). Because of the tone in Matthew's legs and the fact that he can't control the weight of his trunk, he needs a special handicapped bath chair: $3000
4. Handicapped stool: $85
5. Handicapped railing in bathroom: $200
6. Tile and laminate flooring throughout the main level of the house for Matthew's wheelchair to roll on: $2200
7. Concrete ramp and sidewalk to run alongside the garage to the back of the house so that Matthew can go outside: $450
When Matthew gains more abilities in time, the doctors and therapists will want him to work at taking care of his own needs, so specific household appliances will need to be installed that Matthew can have access to from a wheelchair:
8. Kitchen stove with all the buttons and controls on the front: ranges from $500-1000
9. Cost efficient front loading washer and dryer: $898 washer, $847 dryer
10. Stand for Matthew to reach both washer and dryer: $197
11. The home is being built with the capability to install a chair lift to the basement at some point when the funding is available. This is a substantial expense and hopefully at some time down the road they can install a lift so that Matthew can have full access to the whole house (especially in case of emergencies). Chair lift to the basement costs: $35,000

The Kurz family greatly appreciate all the generous outpouring of love and concern for them in the past 8 months. They are overwhelmed by the many ways that people have reached out to help them. Every day is a struggle as they care for Matthew and everything you do (whether you are near or far), they truly appreciate.

"Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. Let Israel say: 'His love endures forever.' Let the house of Aaron say: 'His love endures forever.' Let those who fear the Lord say: 'His love endures forever.' In my anguish I cried to the Lord, and he answered by setting me free. The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid." Psalm 118: 1-6a

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 8/5/06

2006-08-05T19:08:00.000-07:00

Matthew continues to gain upper body strength. The therapists will lay him on his stomach and help position his body and then Matthew raises his head up and keeps his shoulders up for a longer period of time each time. He is also turning himself in bed at night (upper body only) and the night nurse will assist with his legs and then he goes back to sleep.

Matthew continues to eat well, but if it's something he doesn't like - he will spit it out. When Matthew eats, he tends to want to rub his nose alot with his left hand. Quite often this gets in the way of eating. So, someone will hold his left hand down to keep it out of the way. Well, Matthew found a way to get his nose scratched anyway - he lifted his RIGHT hand to his nose to scratch/rub it. It's wonderful that his right hand is "waking up" a little more all the time.

The therapists and his parents have noticed Matthew is getting better with eye/hand coordination all the time with his left hand.

In the previous update I mentioned that Matthew was going to see a podiatrist a couple weeks ago regarding his turned in and dropped left foot. Well, this podiatrist recommended an orthopedic specialist who has worked with similar cases. Matthew saw this specialist yesterday (Friday). The orthopedic doctor has recommended surgery to cut the tendons in the back of Matthew's leg. This is suppose to give mobility to raise the left foot up. Matthew would then be in a series of casts for 2-6 weeks while healing. The doctors at Rusk had mentioned this as a possible treatment, but not a first choice treatment. The orthopedic specialist has determined that everything has been done that can be done - and this is the only option that may work at this time.

Matthew left knee has been swelling recently - it may be from the H.O., but not sure. It is easy to see from Matthew's reactions that it hurts.

Some Shaklee friends in Oklahoma held a dinner fundraiser this week to raise money for Matthew's bath chair. They raised over $2,000! Now there's only $1,000 to go before Matthew can have the bath chair and do away with sponge baths. Your help toward this goal would be much appreciated.

Hope you have a wonderful day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 7/25/06

2006-07-26T06:11:00.000-07:00

As you can probably guess, there is alot to share with you that has happened in the last week. Let's begin with the therapy at ResCare. The physical therapist has been working with Matthew to be on his stomach and work at lifting his head up and then getting up on his elbows. He has to have help with the positioning of his body and it is alot of work for Matthew, but he does it.

Matthew has also advanced from drawing a straight line to a circle to drawing a face with his left hand. Yeah! The therapists are continuing to work with his right arm to build strength and control of his muscles. Matthew is also nodding his head a little more for "yes", but it is harder to do than gesturing "no". He will shake his head "no" quite readily. The speech therapist has ordered trial touch-buttons for Matthew to use for communication. Hopefully he will learn to use the touch buttons to respond with clear answers to questions.

Matthew is making efforts on his own to work with his right hand. When he's sitting in his wheelchair, he'll use his left hand to position his right hand on the arm of the wheelchair securely and then his right fingers will grasp the arm of the chair to keep his arm from falling to the side. If it falls to the side and he loses his grip, then he uses his left hand again to move the right hand back to the right position and hold on again.

Matthew hasn't been vocalizing any words since he's been home, but he is shaping his lips for certain letters like "mmmm" or "p". They have also noticed Matthew talks in his sleep - not in words that or understandable, but a mumble. The important thing to note about this is that his voice inflection fluctuates when "talking" in his sleep and that is a good sign.

It's also great to see Matthew greet people by shaking hands with them with his left hand. He'll initiate the action when someone comes up to him and asks him how he's doing.

Matthew's legs are getting stronger. When someone puts his shoes on, Matthew will move his legs together and in the past he couldn't move his legs at all on his own. The therapists still can't apply full pressure to Matthew's left foot because of the previous wound that hasn't totally healed and this is preventing extensive therapy with his foot. The good news is that part of the scab has fallen off so that is a great sign.

There is progress all the time with eating meals. Matthew is eating full meals at lunch and supper and he opens his mouth completely. There is less of a struggle with the apraxia (total or partial loss of the ability to perform coordinated movements - from dictionary.com). Matthew is also sucking food off of the spoon and he's getting closer to sucking from a straw.

Last week Matthew was taken to the optometrist that has been his eye doctor for several years (she was very gracious to the family after the accident in providing replacement glasses to the boys). She examined his eyes and found the optic nerve is in great shape and there isn't any scarring to his eyes. Without Matthew being able to respond with words to let her know what he sees, she says his eyes look very healthy.

This past Monday Matthew was going to see a podiatrist in Sedalia about an in-grown toenail (which has improved with soaking in epson salts). The podiatrist was also going to discuss options for the left foot and possibly recommend a brace to help remedy the "turned-in" angle of his foot.

Before the accident, Matthew would often watch movies or sit back and relax with his left hand resting behind his head. The family has noticed that gesture is back and he will rest or sleep with his left hand behind his head.

Andrew and Matthew have played finger wars a few times (Matthew, with his left hand). Andrew usually wins, but when Andrew's not looking Matthew will "snake walk" with his fingers and sneaks in a win. Sorry, I can't describe a "snake walk" because I'm not sure what it is, but those who play finger wars regularly will certainly know what that is.

Matthew gave his mother a kiss for the first time - he touched his lips to her cheek and showed his appreciation for all she's doing for him. But his mother is not the first one to get a kiss. Matthew also gave Helen, one of his night nurses a kiss on the hand. She has been very kind in her care for him and Matthew was considerate in showing his appreciation of that as well. Maybe Matthew is a "lady's man" because he also responds VERY well in therapy when his girlfriend, Paige goes along to ResCare.

This weekend there was an informal gathering of friends to spend time with Matthew at the house. Matthew was very happy to see his friends! Matthew's caregivers have advised that being with his friends and having them talk normally with him, carrying on conversation with him and around him in a natural atmosphere may very well spur Matthew to speak. It's been said that words may "come out" naturally when it's without any effort, as opposed to struggling to form the words in therapy.

Thank you for your patience in waiting for an update from me. This past week was hectic at work and then we had power outages in St. Louis so I couldn't get online to make a report. Things are also hectic for the Kurz family so we don't get to talk on a daily basis.

Blessings on your day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 7/15/06

2006-07-15T14:12:00.000-07:00

Matthew has been home a week and a half already and he is really enjoying being with his whole family on a regular basis. He also is glad to not have staff coming in every few hours to check his blood pressure and other vitals.

Matthew gets intensive therapy at ResCare in Sedalia every day, 9:00-3:00. They work with him in intensive blocks of time of 45 minute sessions. They have continued what Rusk started by helping Matthew retrain his brain to communicate with his right hand. He has been able to hold onto a pencil between his thumb and index finger and draw a squiggly line. It takes ALOT of effort and concentration on Matthew's part (and someone has to hold his arm at the elbow to steady it), but he is making improvement all the time with his right hand. Matthew has also been working on stretching out his right arm and fingers on his own.

He has also been able to color in a picture with a marker. They have to hold down his left arm to keep it "silent" so the right arm has to do the work.

Matthew has also been improving with his ability to drink through a straw. The ability to purse his lips around the straw gets better each day.

The staff at ResCare are getting to see Matthew's personality peaking out. He has been more expressive with his facial expressions and he even manages to show his humor through his expressions. Matthew is getting more and more comfortable with the staff at ResCare. He also demonstrated his considerate nature when one of the therapists was sitting on a therapy ball near him and when it looked like she might fall off, Matthew reached out with his good arm in what looked like an effort to catch her from falling.

Matthew is now eating lunch and supper without any tube feeding. The only tube feeding is done at breakfast time (when this young man still demonstrates his difficulty with being a morning person). His parents are working with him to hold the spoon or fork himself by using the "hand over hand" method. Matthew's hand rests on theirs as they feed him. This helps to retrain Matthew's brain to think he's feeding himself.

Being at home is very good, but it is also a huge challenge for the family to adjust to the new circumstances, scheduling, meal times, nursing, etc. Family life is very difficult at this time and we pray that in time things will work out for all family members. A new nursing service is on board for a few hours a day and that needs to be adjusted into the schedule as well.

Andrew is enjoying being in Mexico. We pray for his safe return and look forward to hearing about his adventures.

Hope you can stay cool in this heatwave across the country.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 7/7/06

2006-07-07T10:15:00.000-07:00

Matthew is glad to be home!!!!!! His dad and brothers were playing some of his favorite music that he hadn't heard in months (probably since the accident) and a big grin came over his face. His mom said it was an "ear to ear" grin that they had never seen before. She said to him "it's great to be home, isn't Matthew?!" and he kept grinning.

His first night home went well - he slept well and they didn't have an troubles with the transition into his new bed and situation.

One of the comments for the last update mentioned that the Rusk staff trained them well and that is a fact! Both Brenda and Erich have taken on continuing his therapy at home - working his muscles and joints, speech therapy, etc. Today (Friday) Matthew begins therapy at Premier ResCare in Sedalia. It will be good to hear how that goes.

The Kurzs are in contact with a nursing service and hopefully can work out several hours of in-home care on a daily basis.

"I have trusted in your steadfast love;
my heart shall rejoice in your salvation.
I will sing to the LORD,
because he has dealt bountifully with me."
Ps. 13:5-6

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 7/5/06

2006-07-05T14:26:00.000-07:00

Matthew is arriving "home" as I am typing this message - his new temporary home at Grandma and Grandpa's house. A new chapter in the Kurz family life has begun. The whole family is "moving in" with Grandma so that they can be together as a family again.

Once Matthew was hydrated again last week, he began doing much better and was more responsive. He is doing well enough to be released and in the care of his parents and loved ones. As the next few days unfold we will share with you the challenges and joys of being in a new surrounding.

I know you are all keeping the Kurz family in your prayers. Please pray for strength and courage for Brenda and Erich as they care for their son 24/7. Pray that Andrew, Lucas and Timothy will be great help to their parents and their grandmother. Pray that everything will be done to make sure that Matthew has what he needs for daily sustenance, as well as continuing to make little victories of improvement.

If you would like to send cards or letters to Matthew and the rest of the family, you can send them to their home address where they will still get mail (and Pastor Kurz will be working in his study), as well as at Grandma Kaiser's house:

Matthew Kurz
c/o Shirley Kaiser
102 S. Center
Lincoln, MO 65338

My updates to the blog have been scarce lately because we have been on vacation and not able to connect to the internet on a regular basis. But vacation is almost over and we're in touch with the outside world again.

Hope you had a safe and enjoyable celebration of our nation's Independence Day.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 6/29/06

2006-06-29T14:43:00.000-07:00

Last week was a very good week for Matthew - he was expressive with immediate responses, saying words, and eating well. When one of the therapists left the room, she waved goodbye to Matthew and Matthew waved back. Another therapist (it may have been the same therapist) was talking to Matthew about giving him something for the pain and she made a statement like, "would that be all right, Matthew?" and he responded with a clear "all right". On Friday when Pastor Kurz was with Matthew, he was standing on the other side of the room and decided to see if Matthew would wave to him. He asked Matthew to wave and Matthew waved back. Then he asked Matthew to make a clenched fist like he was doing and Matthew responded with a clenched fist like his dad's. Pastor Kurz had him make other hand motions with his left hand and Matthew responded in turn. Matthew also started to show more expression in his face (both positive and negative).

Things have not been so great this week. Monday afternoon, Matthew was unresponsive and they couldn't rouse him. His heart rate dropped and his blood pressure was low. He isn't eating again and he wasn't able to relieve his bladder. This went on for a couple days. They ran blood tests and scans and everything looked fine, within normal levels. They believe the level of the baclofen pump was too high (for his muscle tone) and he was dehydrated again. So, they have been giving him extra fluids and decreased the level of the baclofen. He is starting to respond a little more and getting color back into his cheeks. Consequently, because of this setback, Matthew's release date from Rusk has been moved back to July 5th (tentatively).

Andrew is off the crutches and has a new knee brace. He has also been given a new medication for inflammation and that seems to have helped, so his legs are feeling much better. Andrew will soon be going on a mission trip in July with folks from Trinity Lutheran Church in Cole Camp to Mexico. They will be building a house for the needy.

Hope you have a safe and enjoyable 4th of July weekend.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 6/22/06

2006-06-22T20:18:00.000-07:00

There have been alot of positive things happening this week to share with you. The week began great on Father's Day. The whole Kurz family was together, as well as the Asburrys and dear friends in Columbia, the Thiemes. We spent most of the afternoon and dinner time outside and it was easy to see that Matthew was content and enjoyed the outdoors. We had an impromptu picnic under the gazebo and Matthew ate well. It was enjoyable to be together and the dads had a great day with their children.

A couple days later Matthew got to stand! Now, Matthew wasn't able to make any effort to stand on his own. The staff was working to get him upright and held him up with great assistance. It took alot of effort and there was pain for Matthew because of the tone in his legs, but he was upright for a few seconds and when they sat him back down, Matthew had a pleased look on his face.

Yesterday, they took the bandaid off of Matthew's foot because the wound has completely healed. He is now wearing a shoe on his left foot for the first time in a long time!!!

Matthew was given a marker to hold in his left hand. He adjusted the marker in his hand like he used to do and then made a mark on a piece of paper on his lap. Then, with his mom's help assisting him, he drew a circle on the paper. It wasn't an even circle by any means, but it was a circle!

Matthew's eating has improved some more. He is now eating from a spoon (with someone else feeding him). Previously the food had to be inserted in his mouth by someone else's fingers. He is opening his mouth a little wider and making it easier to get the utensil in his mouth.

As of this writing, Matthew is still scheduled to be released from Rusk Rehabilitation Center on June 30th and will be moved to his grandparents' home temporarily.

The Lord be with you!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 6/16/06

2006-06-16T07:01:00.000-07:00

A couple days ago Matthew had a rough night. He was taken to the emergency room at 1:00 a.m. because he was very pale with an irregular heartbeat and they couldn't arouse him. They kept him for several hours trying to figure out what was wrong. One problem they did discover was that he was dehydrated. So, they got an IV going, but that was also difficult. They had to reinsert the IV several times because his veins would "blow out".

After hours of resting and getting the fluid his body needed, Matthew's color started coming back into his cheeks and his system normalized. He also had a clearer look in his eyes rather than the "haze" he appeared to be in earlier that day and earlier in the week. When one of his therapists came in the room, he turned his head quickly and appeared to be listening intently to the conversation. Rev. Kurz and the therapist also noticed a slight movement in Matthew's right hand and what felt like a little squeeze.

Next the speech therapist, Jen spent time with Matthew to work on facial movements. She asked him to stick out his tongue at her. His dad helped him a bit by nudging his chin down and then Matthew opened his mouth wider than he has lately and stuck out his tongue! She asked him to do this again several times and it looked like Matthew was trying to move his tongue around or make the effort, but he didn't do it again. Jen also wanted Matthew to make an intentional movement with his left hand (rather than the active involuntary movements he makes). She asked him to touch the top of his head with his left hand. Matthew lifted his arm and then touched his head and kind of ran his fingers through his hair. His dad said "looks like you did it, Matthew" and then Matthew said "yeah"! It was a clear and audible "yeah" - not a moan or grunt. How exciting!

After these accomplishments, Jen rushed out to tell the other therapist who came back into the room and asked Matthew to stick out his tongue. He shook his head "no". Guess he'd had enough of performing!

Matthew has pulled his stomach tube out again so they are anxious to get the mickey button in place before he does some serious damage to himself. Hopefully the procedure to do that will take place soon.

The Kurzs have been told that there are quite a few things that Matthew will need when he's released from Rusk that medical insurance and medicaid won't cover. One of those is a shower chair and there are several other items - some that they will probably discover they need right before checking out. Thankfully insurance and medicaid will cover a good portion of the wheelchair, bed and hoyer lift.

Have a great weekend!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update and Doctor's Letter

2006-06-13T11:01:00.000-07:00

I will give you a quick update and then the family has a very important letter to share with you.

Matthew is eating solid foods again - with a great deal of effort and encouragement on his parents' part, but this is good progress back in the right direction. We do not know at this time if Matthew's release date will be extended past June 30th. It all depends on the doctor's accessment of Matthew's current condition (and the doctor has been ill recently).

Flooring is going in this week in the basement at grandmother's house. The carpet was pulled up last week. Volunteers are also working on the driveway and the concrete slab this week. A very generous donation of concrete is MUCH appreciated! At this time a vehicle has not been secured.

The following joint-effort letter was written by a rehabilitation psychologist, and Matthew's Case Manager. It is our hope that this letter will explain a great deal about Matthew's condition and be a reminder that this isn't a temporary change in the Kurz' family's lifestyle and they need all the help and support we can give them.

Rachel Asburry

June 1, 2006

To Whom It May Concern:

This letter is to offer some insight into the nature of the injury suffered by Matthew Kurz. Matthew was involved in a motor vehicle collision on January 25, 2006. Available records indicate that this collision occurred as a result of blinding by the sun that prevented Matthew from seeing a stopped bus, which Matthew's car struck from behind.

Matthew incredibly survived the collision, but suffered a very severe traumatic injury to the brain (TBI). The nature of the injury involved the whole brain, with widespread damage to the axons of the brain (the part of the brain cells that deliver information to other parts of the brain). Consequently, during much of the early part of his hospital stay Matthew was in a coma or near coma.

As is typical in injuries of this severity, Matthew is making very gradual progress. He is now no longer in a coma, and is able to visually establish eye contact with others. However, he is unable to walk, talk, or communicate reliably even in non-verbal ways. He remains totally dependent on others for care, even for activities as basic as feeding himself or brushing his teeth.

Whether he will ever regain the ability to take care of basic activities of daily living such as feeding and toileting himself is not certain, and will not be known for years. Almost certainly, Matthew will be left permanently disabled by this injury. It cannot be assumed that he will regain the ability to walk, and in all probability will need to rely on a wheelchair for mobility.

The rehabilitation team at Rusk Rehabilitation Center, working closely with Matthew's family, is striving to help Matthew regain as much function as is possible. We have found that perfect prediction of outcome after traumatic brain injury is not possible, and sometimes people exceed expectations and make incredible gains. Unfortunately, it is also true that many patients with severe TBI remain permanently and fully disabled, despite the best efforts of the patient, the family, and the medical/rehabilitation professionals.

In Matthew's case there is reason to be hopeful since it is still very early in the rehabilitation process. However, it is extremely important that all involved (directly or indirectly) in providing care and support to Matthew and his family understand that this is a very severe injury from which Matthew will be healing for years. At this stage, all involved should understand that he will be totally dependent for the foreseeable future on those who love and support him. It is not realistic to assume that he will be able to walk any time in the near future, and in order for him to return to the community with his family (where he belongs and has the best chance of healing) it will be critical that the home setting be accessible for a person in a wheelchair.

There is much misunderstanding and misinformation about traumatic brain injury in the general public, often fueled by very inaccurate portrayals of TBI and recovery in the popular media. Unfortunately, these misunderstandings create great difficulties for survivors of TBI and their families. Research demonstrates that one of the best things that can help people recover and adjust to TBI is an understanding and supportive community. This letter is written in an attempt to help create a better understanding among Matthew's home community of the substantial challenges he will face the rest of his life related to this injury. Please do what you can to be supportive and understanding of Matthew and his family.

For those interested in learning more about TBI, you are encouraged to contact the Brain Injury Association of Missouri at www.biamo.org or the National Brain Injury Association at www.biausa.org.

Thank you,

Joseph H. Hinkebein, Ph.D., ABPP(Rp)
Clinical Associate Professor
Rehabilitation Psychologist
University of Missouri Medical Center

Lisa Scott, MA
Rusk Rehabilitation Brain Injury Case Manager

Update - 6/9/06

2006-06-09T21:33:00.000-07:00

The procedure to replace Matthew's feeding tube went well (on Wednesday instead of Thursday), but later that night the feeding tube came out. Matthew had a rough night after that, but now he has a temporary feeding tube. Next week sometime they will replace the temporary with a Mickey button (spelling?). It will be a way to seal the hole to his stomach and when it's time to feed him, to "snap on" a feeding tube.

As a result of the troubles with the feeding tube, they conducted a gastro study on Matthew. Everything was fine and in the right place.

Matthew had some good accomplishments in the last two days despite troubles with the feeding tube. He brought a cup up to his mouth three times with some assistance at his left elbow to help him direct his movements. He also was able to put all the pegs in a peg board with alot of effort and more assistance at his left elbow.

Matthew also moved his whole right arm for the first time with his therapist giving instructions! That is a major accomplishment!!!! And despite being tired tonight, Matthew gave a smile to his mom before she left for the night (he hasn't smiled in days).

We are thankful for each little victory!

Andrew is still hobbling around with a large knee brace and crutches. He says it feels a little better but not much. It will take some time for great improvement.

Hope you all have a great weekend.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 6/3/06

2006-06-03T10:29:00.000-07:00

The results from Andrew's MRI are in. Andrew has had Osgood Schlatter Syndrome for quite some time and it is very likely that bumping his knee against the dashboard during the accident greatly increased the pain in his knee and made the condition worse. For those of you that don't know what Osgood Schlatter is, here's a definition from familydoctor.org:

Osgood-Schlatter (say: "oz-good shlot-ter") disease is one of the most common causes of knee pain in young athletes. It causes swelling, pain and tenderness just below the knee, over the shin bone (also called the tibia). It occurs mostly in boys who are having a growth spurt during their pre-teen or teenage years. One or both knees may be affected.

So, the treatment for Andrew is to wear a knee brace indefinitely and use crutches for four weeks. In the two days he's been wearing the brace, he's already had improvement and the pain and swelling has gone down. It puts a cramp in Andrew's style for summer activities, but it's much better to give his body a chance to heal.

Matthew's stay at the rehab center has been extended to June 30th. Two of the medications he was on for agitation and concentration had been decreased, but they have discovered they decreased them too soon because of the way Matthew has been acting. So, they will increase the level of the medication back to the previous level, but it takes three weeks for regulating the medication. Rusk cannot release Matthew until the medication is regulated back to where it was.

They also need to continue regulating the baclofen for Matthew's tone. They are working to find the right level for what his body needs. The tone has been very tight in Matthew's legs and it's painful for Matthew.

Next Thursday Matthew will have outpatient surgery to replace the tubing for his feeding tube. They have discovered a tiny hole in the tube. They will replace it with a tube with tiny balloon at the end that inflates and holds the tubing in place (that's not the most accurate description, but you get the jist of it).

Matthew's wound on his foot has almost healed. They would like to try putting him on the tilt table again and also attempt to put him in the ambulator (a machine that will help him stand). This all depends on the muscle tone and the HO (HO has to do with the calcium buildup in his muscles that hardens them). Hopefully they can proceed with this, but alot of this depends on how painful it will be for Matthew.

Matthew's eating has gotten a little better. There is less resistance on Matthew's part and he had more than strawberries the yesterday (baked beans and ribs too! - small amounts though). Brain trauma patients sometimes can't open their mouth to eat because there's an incorrect signal from the brain to clamp the mouth shut. Matthew has managed to get his mouth open a 1/2 inch.

A few days ago Matthew as fitted for a special wheelchair made just for his size and build. This wheelchair is for long-term use. It can be discouraging that the rehab staff are preparing Matthew for long-term wheelchair mobility, but we will continue to pray that Matthew can walk again one day.

Hope you all enjoy warm, sunny days before the intensity and humidity of summer greet us.

O Savior, precious Savior, whom yet unseen we love;
O name of might and favor, all other names above:
We worship you; we bless you;
To you alone we sing;
We praise you and confess you, our holy Lord and King.

(Lutheran Worship, Hymn 282)

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 5/30/06

2006-05-30T07:01:00.000-07:00

Matthew accomplished some pretty positive things this weekend. He has been told that his right hand fingers and hand need to be straightened out. So, on his own, he began using his left hand to work on those fingers. At first he got the fingers straightened out and then yesterday he managed to get the whole hand straighted out. It's amazing that something we take for granted, Matthew has to work hard at, but he is aware of what needs to be done and he's working as hard as he can.

Matthew also ate 12 strawberries yesterday. This is great because he hasn't been consuming noticeable amounts of food by mouth for about a month.

And the third thing I'd like to report is questionable about being a positive step (just kidding!!!). Matthew has begun to really focus on T.V. shows - he's not just staring at the screen with a blank look. He watched a show on the Discovery station this weekend and he paid attention to the program but would look away when the commercials came on. When the show returned, he focused back in on the show.

Today is Andrew's turn to see several doctors. He's been doing better since the bout with mono, but he tires easily. He's actually seeing the doctors today because a pain that he's had in his leg on the right side from the time of the accident has never gone away. Hopefully they can determine what the source of the discomfort is.

The Lord be with you this day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update and Request for Help

2006-05-27T06:49:00.000-07:00

We received unexpected news this week. The doctors plan to release Matthew from Rusk Rehabilitation Center on June 16th, so Matthew has to come home. Rusk's policy is that a patient must make major progress to continue in their care. Matthew's "baby steps" of progress are not what they consider "major progress".

As you may guess, this has resulted in Erich and Brenda having to scramble to find a way to bring Matthew home MUCH sooner than planned. The rooms in their current house are not large enough to accommodate Matthew's needs, so they have come up with a plan to temporarily move Matthew into his grandparent's basement in Lincoln, Missouri. The basement is at ground level and some modifications will need to take place in order to get Matthew in the house. The first major hurdle will be to pour a concrete driveway up to the house and a concrete slab next to the door for access into the house.

We are appealing to you for help - they will need to purchase or lease a handicapped accessible van right away and those vehicles are very expensive. Please consider contributing what you can to the Matthew Kurz medical fund for this need. You can still contribute to the Thrivent fundraising until May 31st to have your gift matched. Make checks out to "Thrivent" and mail to:

Bob Boone
7220 W. 98th Terrace, Suite 230
Overland Park, KS 66212

As a reminder, after May 31st you can send gifts made out to the "Matthew Kurz Medical Fund" to:

Citizens Farmers Bank
East Main Street
PO Box 219121
Cole Camp, MO 65325
660-668-4416

Physical help is also crucial right now. If you can help in any way with the pouring of concrete and making the Kaiser house accessible for Matthew, PLEASE call Brenda and Rev. Kurz immediately at 660-221-1850. We need your helping hands!

Most importantly, your prayers are requested. This has been a little unsettling for the family and another hurdle to deal with. Please pray that our Lord and Savior gives them the strength and courage to take on one more challenge. And we also pray that God continues to care for Matthew and grants healing and progress. Matthew will be surrounded by all of his family regularly and will be in a familiar place - so maybe this is just want Matthew needs to make continued improvements. Brenda has already visited the rehab center, ResCare, in Sedalia that gives outpatient care and therapy. She's impressed with what she has seen there and she's heard great things from people who have gone to or had family members go to ResCare.

Thank you for the many ways you have supported, helped and cared for the Kurz family. The road is long that they must travel and they continue to need our support, help and care.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Birthday celebration

2006-05-24T07:56:00.000-07:00

Matthew has had two very BIG days this week - graduation and birthday! Matthew handled them both very well, with small smiles on his face for both events. There were lots of people at his birthday/graduation party, including representation by three T.V. stations and six newspaper reporters. Check out the following links to read the articles from the Columbia Tribune and the Columbia Missourian.

http://www.columbiatribune.com/2006/May/20060523News008.asp

http://www.columbiamissourian.com/news/story.php?ID=19967

Both newspaper articles are very well done, so I will let them tell you the story. I will add a couple details that Brenda shared with me last night. Two of Matthew's friends performed their speech contest pieces and everyone enjoyed that - including Matthew with more smiles. Matthew kept his head up and eyes wide open for the big event (as you can see from the pictures). But on Tuesday, Matthew was "wiped-out" from all the activity and was pretty tired and quiet all day. I'm glad the newspapers have a picture of Matthew with the article so that you can see how great he looks.

Today, Wednesday, Matthew has another big day, but not quite as fun. He will have another CAT scan on his brain as a follow-up to see how the shunt in his brain is doing. Matthew also will have a bone scan of his body to see where the calcium is settling in the muscles and joints. This is causing hardening of his some areas of his muscles.

Have a wonderful day!

Rachel Asburry

A Report on Graduation

2006-05-23T06:59:00.000-07:00

Well, this is probably old news for most of you because word has spread like wildfire about Matthew being at graduation and there was a newspaper article in the Sedalia Democrat. But for those of you that are not in the Central Missouri area to get all these reports - it really was a very special day and I'm glad to be able to give you a firsthand report!

The day started off great with Matthew's nurse, Everett and his mother and I loading him up in the handicapped accessible van for the trip from Columbia to Cole Camp. While Brenda signed Matthew out for the day, I had a few moments with him by myself. I told him how glad I was to be with him on this day and his godfather, Randy wanted to be there too, but he was preaching in St. Louis. I was holding Matthew's hand - he gave it a little squeeze and smiled at me. I can't tell you how happy that made me.

Matthew traveled very well in the van and stayed awake the whole trip. He even held his head up most of the way. We were treated to having a "bodyguard" when we arrived at the high school - Mr. Schearer, the new football coach. He stood by to help at every turn and monitored people going in and out of the room where we "made camp" near the entrance to the auditorium stage. He was truly a blessing to us that day.

Matthew's friends came in to visit him a few - sometimes more than a few - at a time. We were so thrilled to see Matthew smile several times at his friends. His smile isn't a wide open grin; the left side up his mouth turns up and his face is bright and clear - it's a wonderful sight to see. Then when his classmates left to get their graduation gowns on, then we got Matthew ready too and stayed in that room for most of the ceremony.

When the big moment came for presenting the graduates, the gentleman at the podium (sorry, I didn't catch his name) made an announcement that when Matthew came on stage to please refrain from applause and flash photography because that is difficult for brain trauma patients to take in. So, he said "Matthew Christian Kurz" and Rev. Kurz wheeled Matthew onto the stage in his cap and gown like the rest of the graduates and Brenda was by their side and she received the diploma. Matthew's head was held high and they turned him to face the auditorium. It brings tears to my eyes to retell the story. When Matthew came onto the stage, his classmates stood up and soon the whole auditorium rose and gave Matthew a silent standing ovation. We couldn't be more proud of this young man who has endured so much and made it so far since the accident.

At this point we left and loaded Matthew up in the van, so we didn't get to hear the reading of the awards and scholarships. But we were told by family members that stayed that when Matthew's name was read the auditorium erupted in cheering and applause.

Matthew's adventure that day didn't end with graduation. We then took him home for a little while. With a little effort his wheelchair was lifted into the house and Matthew sat in the living room soaking in the atmosphere (at least we think he was "soaking it in"). He was peaceful and quiet, but kept his head up and looked intently at his family and his nurse, Everett and speech therapist, Jenn.

I expected Matthew to fall asleep on the way back to Columbia, but he stayed away and kept his head up alot. He probably wanted to make sure I kept both hands on the wheel while driving :). He was settled back in his room and then could relax laying in his bed. It was a special day!

If you would like to read the article in the Sedalia Democrat here's the link:

http://www.sedaliademocrat.com/News/301782054066999.htm

I made sure to email the reporter that in the future, he should refer to him as Matthew or Richard, but not Matt!

As soon as I get the report from Matthew's parents on how the birthday party went, I will share that with you.

God is good!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Graduation

2006-05-20T08:27:00.000-07:00

It's a go! Matthew's doctor has released him to attend high school graduation on Sunday. A multitude of stimuli with all the people that are there might be too much for Matthew to handle, so he will be in a room nearby and when it is time for him to receive his diploma, he will go across the auditorium and then have to leave immediately. If you want to congratulate Matthew and greet him, the best time to do that would be at Rusk on Monday night for his birthday celebration from 6:30-7:30 p.m.

Matthew will be receiving the following scholarships and awards:

Kansas City Art Institute Scholarship - $10,000, renewal every year based on an above 3.0 GPA.

Honors Diploma given by the Board of Education from Cole Camp High School. This honor is given for students who have completed the core curriculum of preparation for college for students that have received a 3.0 GPA or higher.

State College Preparatory Studies Certificate: Issued by the Department of Elementary and Secondary Education of Missouri for those students who have completed a core curriculum and scored 21 or higher on the ACT.

It was Matthew's goal as he went through high school to be awarded these awards and scholarships, and we are very proud of him. He had to work hard to reach these goals and we will continue to encourage him to work equally hard to continue on the journey of recovery from brain trauma injury.

Thank you for all your support and love for Matthew!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Matthew's Birthday

2006-05-19T07:13:00.000-07:00

Matthew's birthday is May 22nd. Please join us in Columbia if you are in the area or want to make a little trip. There will be a celebration from 6:30 - 7:30 p.m. at Rusk Rehabilitation Center in the cafeteria on the main floor. There will be refreshments, fellowship, and even some entertainment. Some of Matthew's friends from school will be "performing". There will also be a large picture with matting around the sides for everyone to sign who comes to the celebration. We want this to be a special remembrance for Matthew. If you are not able to attend, please send a card to:

Matthew Kurz
Rusk Rehabilitation Center
315 Business Loop 70W
Columbia, MO 65203

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother
P.S. A message to those who put comments with an update - Brenda DOES read the blog and the messages, and she appreciates your words of comfort and wisdom from experience.

Update - Edited - 5/17/06

2006-05-17T06:41:00.000-07:00

Mother's Day was an enjoyable day for the Kurz family. The boys were watching re-runs of the Cosby Show with Matthew. At one point Lucas and Timothy laughed really hard. Matthew then SMILED and opened his mouth as if laughing without sound. What a treat to see!

The doctors, staff and Brenda and Erich are all very pleased to see Matthew very calm, with very little agitation. Once in a while he moans when being transferred from the bed to the chair because of his foot still hurts, but overall there is tremendous improvement with his demeanor. His foot wound is taking time to heal, but it is doing a little better. This wound does impede his therapy on his foot and ankle because the therapist can't grasp his foot fully to move it around because of the pain it causes him, so she has to hold it gingerly.

The doctors have indicated that they are confident that Matthew is very aware of everything going on around him. They can tell by his clear response with hands, eyes, etc. that his is paying attention and understands.

The incision over his collarbone is doing OK. They had to cut away decayed tissue last week in surgery, but it looks much better now. They tested the area for infection and one doctor mentioned that he was amazed that there wasn't any infection considering how long there was an open wound. Could this be because of the good bacteria Matthew receives from the Shaklee product, Optiflora?!

A business has finally been found that will make copies of Matthew's artwork. The piece that is affectionately called the "Van Gogh" and the "Nose Picker" are $35 plus shipping. The charcoal picture (still life) is $100 plus shipping. The cost is so high because of the size and the large amount of ink that it takes to produce the picture. Money collected from the sale of these pictures will be included in other Thrivent matching fund programs. Go to www.colecamparea.com/Matthew to view the artwork. Andrew continues to be the contact person for this project. Until the end of the May, the checks need to be made out to "Thrivent" and mail them to Andrew at:

Andrew Kurz
24302 Cheese Creek Road
Cole Camp, MO 65325

The Harley Davidson fundraiser went pretty well on Saturday despite a slow start with one cyclist in the morning. Later in the day there were ALOT more. You can still contribute to this fundraiser and add to the funds that will be matched by Thrivent by sending checks made out to Thrivent with "Matthew Kurz fundraiser" on the memo line. Send the checks to:

Bob Boone
7220 W. 98th Terrace, Suite 230
Overland Park, KS 66212

Brenda asked me to share the names of a couple books she's been reading about head trauma. One is entitled, "Where is the Mango Princess? A Journey Back from Brain Injury". The author is Cathy Crimmins, wife of a man who was involved in a boating accident while in the water. A boat hit his head. The book describes the journey of process of repair with head trauma and how life is changed forever and the caregivers will have to care for the victim for the rest of their lives.

The other book that you might want to check out is called "Ketchup on the Keyboard" (sorry, I don't have the author's name). This is a mother's story about her son involved in a car accident, with head trauma injuries.

We will let you know Friday (at the latest on Saturday) if Matthew will officially be able to attend the graduation ceremony on Sunday, May 21st. Nothing has happened recently to get in the way of this "adventure" for Matthew, so we hope the doctors give him the official OK in a couple days.

Have a blessed day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 5/12/06

2006-05-12T06:53:00.000-07:00

Surgery went well yesterday for Matthew! They removed the plate and screws and now we pray that the area heals well and quickly. His collarbone healed well some time ago and now it's time for the skin and tissue around the area to heal as well.

In preparation for other surgeries, Matthew has been uncomfortable and agitated in the new surroundings of the hospital, but this time Matthew was calm and didn't get upset before and after the surgery. This is a pretty good indicator that Matthew may not be set back in his progress from another surgical procedure.

As we look down the road, there aren't any EXPECTED surgical procedures or hurtles to get in the way of Matthew's progress so we hope and pray the "baby steps" forward will increase.

God's blessings to you this day and have a great weekend!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 5/10/06

2006-05-10T14:25:00.000-07:00

Folks, I'm swamped at work and at home so I don't have time to give you all the details on Matthew's recent progress, but I do want you to know ASAP that Matthew will be having surgery on Thurdsay at 3:30 p.m. They need to remove the plate and screws that were put in to hold his collarbone in the correct position. The screws are working their way out and can potentially cause Matthew lots of problems. The collarbone looks good so the procedure shouldn't be any problem, but it IS surgery. He will probably have to be kept overnight in the hospital because the surgery is later in the day.

We are hopeful that another surgery procedure doesn't set Matthew back in his progress.

Thank you for your prayers!

Rachel Asburry

Update - 5/7/06

2006-05-07T16:05:00.000-07:00

It has been a good weekend for Matthew. He is making improvements and even though the surgery set him back in his progress, he is regaining some skills and abilities back. Previously Matthew was gripping a spoon and pulling it toward his mouth. He is doing that again (with ice chips in the spoon). They will begin introducing other foods little by little again and encourage him to not clamp his mouth shut.

He has also been assisting with getting himself dressed (which he did before, but had stopped). When asked, Matthew will push his own arm through the sleeve.

Matthew's parents and his therapists can see that he DOES understand what is being said to him and around him. The question is if Matthew will choose to respond back. He doesn't respond with words, but with the thumbs up sign or shaking his head. He was doing these things before, but had stopped. We're glad to see these skills are returning.

What is new and exciting is Matthew is holding his head up on his own more each day. A few days ago he could hold his head up for 1/2 hour normally. Each day he makes it for longer. Today he was sitting up in the wheelchair and holding his head up, with legs bent normally and it was so exciting for his mother to see.

Another extremely positive thing is Matthew is learning to breathe deeply through the muscle spasms until they pass. Previously the muscle spasms would cause him confusion and so much pain that he would moan, groan and "fight" the spasms. Now he can breathe deeply until the spasms "let go". He doesn't cry out like he did before. Now you may wonder why he's still having the spasms when he's on the medication for relaxing the muscles. To completely get rid of the spasms would mean so much medication that he would be a "wet noodle" with no muscle control at all. The level of medication he is receiving now reduces the amount of spasms and makes it more comfortable for Matthew without taking away his ability to respond to therapy.

A few days ago Matthew was given the OK by the doctors to take a little trip on May 21st! If all goes well and things continue as they are going, Matthew will be able to attend the graduation ceremony in Cole Camp. The arrangements are being made and Matthew's doctor thinks it will be good for him. Matthew's parents couldn't be happier about this news!!!

Matthew's 18th birthday is the day after graduation, on May 22nd. Brenda is hoping to have a card shower for Matthew and a celebration in his room at Rusk. More details to follow. We hope that you will begin looking for a special card to mail to Matthew on that special day.

God be with you all!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Fundraiser Info

2006-05-04T17:44:00.000-07:00

"Life doesn't always deal a fair hand - in these times, we can all use a little help. Give Matthew Kurz a helping HAND and join us for a HAND up Poker Run."

These are words from the flyer for a new fundraiser.

Many people continue to ask for ways that they can help financially. There is a new fundraiser that has been planned that is coming VERY soon - May 13th! This fundraiser will be in Grandview, MO (south of Kansas City) at Gail's Harley Davidson, at the corner of Hwy 71 and Hwy 150, with high visibility. Four Thrivent chapters and Thrivent Agent, Bob Boone will be working at the day's activities.

Here's the schedule for the day:
8:30 a.m. Poker Run with Harley drivers (best run wins a prize)
8:30 a.m.-2:00 p.m. Bake Sale (items coming from Sedalia, Lee Summit, etc.)
11:00 a.m.-2:00 p.m. Silent Auction
12:30 - 2:00 p.m - grilled hamburgers and hot dogs, chips, etc. - free will offering
Live Band and Dance starts at 2:00 p.m.

Now, you're probably wondering how this came about. Somehow, the word about Matthew and Andrew's accident got to some Harley officiandos and they wanted to help. To make a long story short, they asked Bob Boone and a family member to come speak to them about Matthew's situation. It was guessed that there would be about 10 people show up for the meeting and instead 110 people gathered to hear Matthew's story. There was a gentleman there in a wheelchair named George. I don't know his story, but he stood up out of the wheelchair with effort and the Harley fans said they want to help Matthew "on the road" working toward being able to stand like that! They also said they have Matthew on their prayer list!

Four Thrivent chapters with which Bob Boone is associated heard about the great need for assistance and joined in with the Harley Davidson group to put on this fundraiser. Here's how you can help: the Bake Sale needs more items, especially about 100 dozen cookies. Mailing baked goods is not a good thing, so if you could send $5-$10 towards the bake sale that would be greatly appreciate. Mail your check (made out to: Thrivent) to the address below and put on the memo line: bake sale.

Bob Boone
7220 W. 98th Terrace, Suite 230
Overland Park, KS 66212

It would also be very helpful to have more contributions for the silent auction. Contact Bob Boone at 816-590-9064 to offer items. Of course, cash donations of any amount are always welcome.

Please help get the word out by passing out or displaying the flyers for this event. Contact Robert.Boone@Thrivent.com for a copy of the flyer.

Update - 5/3/06

2006-05-03T14:11:00.000-07:00

Matthew is doing quite well since his return to Rusk and he's recovered from surgery. He was re-admitted to Rusk on Monday and settled back into the therapy routine on Tuesday. His dad was with him on Tuesday and he enjoyed seeing Matthew's major accomplishment! The therapist was working on Matthew's legs, massaging muscles and bending joints. Matthew's left leg was able to bend at almost a 90 degree angle!!!!! This is a HUGE improvement from the stiff left leg that would hardly move before. Matthew sat in the wheelchair with that left leg bent and he was sitting almost like normal (and even without much complaining on Matthew's part). The pump with the medication for relaxing Matthew's muscles is doing what it's suppose to do! There's still some resistence with Matthew's muscles, but there is great improvement and we are so thankful.

The wound on Matthew's foot is healing well. They re-bandage it four times a day and it is looking much better.

Matthew hasn't been forming words of late, but Erich noticed that Matthew doesn't seem so "foggy". He is clear and directed in his responses (when given a command or request). Since he doesn't speak words, he responds with actions or "grunts".

Last night there was a Fine Arts Dinner at the Cole Camp High School. Matthew received the Top Art Award for Seniors entitled "The Leonardo da Vinci Award". Brenda and Andrew were there to receive the award for Matthew. Andrew received recognition for letting in speech. We're proud of both boys!

Please check back Thursday morning - there will be details regarding a new fundraiser.

Blessings to you!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/30/06

2006-04-30T17:31:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was a rough day for Matthew. He was in a lot of pain and was moaning alot. But today things are MUCH better. He hasn't needed much pain medication and he's much more relaxed and comfortable. The surgery went well to put in the shunt. The shunt is not a temporary shunt that drains fluid outside of the body. The incision into his skull is enclosed and looks like a little bump on the back of his head. There is some sort of monitor that detects if the pressure is too great in his brain and fluid is released in tubing down to his stomach. All of this is internal and can't be seen on the outside of his body. One of the doctors told his parents that they should see great progress in his development now that pressure has been released.

The dead skin was removed from Matthew's foot and a scab is already forming on his foot. It looks like it should heal really well. Today Matthew isn't bothered by nurses changing the dressing (a big improvement from yesterday).

Matthew still won't eat, but at this time there doesn't need to be concern about that. He probably doesn't have much appetite from the medications he's on from the surgery and all the procedures. Hopefully when things "normalize" in his routine and what he's receiving, he'll get his appetite back.

Andrew was telling Matthew about prom this weekend and those in the room noticed that Matthew's eyes were bright and he was focused on Andrew as he was talking. Andrew was also showing him pictures and Matthew focused on them as well. He went back and forth with his focused attention as though he was engaged in the conversation.

Another thing that is good to see is Matthew hasn't been drooling out the right side of his mouth. Brenda has noticed some improvement in the right corner of his mouth where before it was drooping.

We are all greatly relieved that these procedures have helped Matthew and were completed with success to the benefit of Matthew's health. Praise the Lord for his care of Matthew and his guidance of the medical team.

Andrew has some more good news. He tried out and MADE the summer Junior Legion baseball team. He's very excited and we'll all proud of him. He'll be playing right field.

Hope you have all had a good weekend!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/28/06

2006-04-28T07:26:00.000-07:00

Matthew is being taken to the hospital earlier than expected this morning. He was originally scheduled to just have his foot taken care of. Now they have decided that he needs to have a shunt put in to reduce the swelling in the ventricles of the brain. They will do both procedures while he's at the hospital. He is tentatively expected to stay at the hospital through to Monday. Please pray for the Lord's guidance for the surgeons and medical team and protection for Matthew!

Brenda also asked me to tell you that Matthew hasn't been wanting to eat for a couple of days. He clamps his mouth shut and they can't get him to open up. Thankfully, he is still getting nourishment through the feeding tube.

"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. . . For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, "Fear not, I am the one who helps you." Isaiah 41:10, 13

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/26/06

2006-04-26T18:59:00.000-07:00

Good news!!!! Matthew is doing much better. He is so much more relaxed now after the medication has relaxed his muscles. The muscles spasms have greatly been reduced and consequently, Matthew's pain is reduced. It is such a relief for Brenda and Erich to see Matthew more comfortable and relaxed. He still has some pain from the incision, but that will improve in time. The staff was even able to take Matthew off of three of his other medications and the doctor gave orders that Matthew does not need to be restrained.

Today they were able to extend Matthew's right arm so that it was almost straight. His arm also rested across his body rather than curled up tight in a clench. The therapist was also able to move Matthew's left ankle a little bit which is a great improvement. Previously his ankle hasn't been able to be moved at all. In addition to this therapy, he was also on the tilt table at a 55 degree angle and didn't complain (by moaning) at all.

This Friday the plastic surgeon is scheduled to examine Matthew's foot. He plans to scrape off the dead skin. One of the doctors at Rusk has tested Matthew's blood and there are no infections in his blood, which is very good news considering the wound on his foot.

Yesterday, the Kurzs received a report on the CAT scan taken of Matthew's brain last Thursday. The CAT scan shows some swelling in the ventricles of the brain. At this point they are just going to keep an eye on it. Please pray the swelling does not get worse or impair Matthew's progress.

Let us rejoice that Matthew is feeling better!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/25/06

2006-04-25T08:51:00.000-07:00

Matthew just came out of surgery! They inserted the pump and began administering the medication for relaxing his muscles. Everything looks good so far. Later today they hope to see some results from the medication. If all goes well at the hospital in the next few hours, Matthew should be able to go back to Rusk this afternoon. Thank you for your prayers!!!

Matthew has been holding his head up more each day. Yesterday he lifted his head, looked out the window and with his head relaxed on his pillow he rested for 15 minutes before his head dropped back down.

You may recall one of the therapies that Matthew goes through is laying on the tilt table and then they raise it to see what degree of angle he can handle. This has been difficult for him to do lately because of the pain and discomfort from the wound on his foot. He would get very aggitated because it hurt to put pressure on it. Yesterday the therapist put Matthew's put in a position that kept the pressure off his foot and Matthew handled the tilt table very well (sorry, I forgot to ask what degree the tilt table was at).

It has been determined that the ulcer/wound on Matthew's foot is not going to heal on its own so the staff at the hospital is recommending that a plastic surgeon take a look at it and perhaps they will have to scrape the dead tissue off and fix that area of his foot.

Matthew's parents are pleased with little things that Matthew is doing that seem so natural and require some cognitive awareness. When Matthew is full and doesn't want any more food, he gently holds on to his mother's hand and pulls the utensil in her hand away from his mouth. One thing that Matthew's godfather, Randy witnessed was Matthew will grab a towel or napkin and wipe his own mouth while eating or when the drool on the right side of his mouth bothers him. He doesn't do it all the time, but it's good to see when he does.

One time Matthew didn't want to Brenda to brush his teeth and he pulled her hand away from his mouth. She told him he must have his teeth cleaned and asked him to help her. So she put his hand on hers and they did it together.

From preliminary reports that I have received, the fundraiser dinner last weekend went VERY WELL! There was a great attendance and a long line that went out the door and around the building for a long time. Those that organized the meal planned for 800 people and when it was over there wasn't much food left. Someone with firsthand involvement can give us more specifics. Thanks to all that contributed with silent auction items and helping hands!

Andrew is doing much better. He is back to school and trying to not over-exurt himself (Mom's orders as well as the doctors!). He is pale, but has returned to his chipper self.

Guide me ever, great Redeemer,
Pilgrim through this barren land.
I am weak, but you are mighty;
Hold me with your pow'rful hand.
Bread of heaven, bread of heaven,
Feed me now and evermore;
Feed me now and evermore.

Open now the crystal fountain
Where the healing waters flow;
Let the fire and cloudy pillar
Lead me all my journey through.
Strong deliv'rer, strong deliv'rer,
Shield me with your mighty arm;
Shield me with your mighty arm.

Lutheran Worship Hymn #220

God's blessings on your day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/19/06

2006-04-19T09:37:00.000-07:00

We hope all of you had a blessed Easter! May your Easter joy continue through the entire Easter season.

Matthew was with his girlfriend, Paige on Easter morning and then with his mother and brothers later in the day. He didn't have the best of days - was very aggitated and uncomfortable. As Matthew's aggitation continues, the staff is becoming more and more confident that a great deal of his aggitation is from the pain Matthew is in. His muscles are so tight and his legs hurt and this would make anyone uncomfortable and aggitated. Matthew just can't voice his discomfort to those around him, except with moans. The surgery for putting in the pump to administer the medication for relaxing his muscles is scheduled for April 25th. Hopefully we'll have wonderful reports to give after that surgery and Matthew's aggitation will decrease. The staff at the rehab center has also lowered the dosage of two medications that Matthew was on and we pray this also leads to less aggitation.

There is a great deal to be concerned about in regards to this surgery. First of all, Matthew has to be physically well, no infections, no fevers, etc. at all before they can proceed with the surgery. If they have to postpone for any reason, Matthew's progress toward improvement with his muscles and ultimately with mobility can be greatly impaired. So, please pray for Matthew's health and wellness so that the surgery takes place on time.

On the "flip side" of this is the side effects from the medication. Even though Matthew did very well with the trial dosage of the medication and his muscles were relaxed, there is always the possibility that the regular administration of the dosage can cause Matthew to be very sick and even have seizures. It can take time, even weeks for the dosage to be adjusted just right and Matthew to receive it well. We pray for a smooth adjustment period!

Some of you may try to reassure us with your comments or question why these things have to be done. We are trusting in our Lord's care for Matthew and know the doctors are doing what is necessary for Matthew's recovery. We share the seriousness of this with you so that you know what Matthew is going through and how far he is from being "whole".

Matthew also has a very deep wound or ulcer in his left foot. This wound developed when he was at the hospital several weeks ago. The boot he had to wear to keep his foot in a proper position was not put on correctly and a sore developed. This sore has been getting worse instead of better. They left it alone to let it heal on its own, but it hasn't healed. It is swollen, black and painful for Matthew. Just recently they began to use a wound cleanser and putting medication on it.

There are also some indications that Matthew may have some paralysis on the right side of his face. He has been drooling in the last week or so more from the right side of his mouth. When he attempts to put his mouth around a straw, the right side of his mouth doesn't close on the straw. When he tries to smile, the right side of his mouth doesn't move. It is possible that this is a temporary paralysis, but it could be permanent.

Now for some positive news: Saturday was Brenda's birthday and Matthew gave her the best present ever - he said "mamamamama"! Yesterday Matthew had one of his favorite meals for lunch - barbecued chicken and pork and beans. He would make a "mmmm" sound after bites and then once Brenda and the other person in the room heard him say "mmmm more". He sure enjoyed that meal.

Matthew has also been holding his head up more on his own, which is terrific. Yesterday he made some attempts to help his nurse with getting himself dressed by pulling down on his shirt.

Today Matthew has a special visitor who hasn't been able to see Matthew in a while because of pastoral duties. His godfather, Randy is with him right now. I hope that Randy can give you a first hand report of Matthew's condition in the coming days.

On the homefront, Andrew is not well. He developed mono and is at home sick. This young man has been working hard to stay on top of his school work and all his activites and now he's run-down. He is getting lots of rest and hopefully will be feeling better soon. Brenda has not been able to go home to be with him so that she doesn't contract any illness and then take the chance of infecting Matthew.

Blessings to you this day!

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/13/06

2006-04-13T11:47:00.000-07:00

Blessed Holy (Maundy) Thursday to all of you.

There hasn't been much change in Matthew's aggitation yet (although Brenda notices that he's a little calmer for her), but we still appreciate all the prayers for this particular aspect of Matthew's recovery.

Matthew continues to put his glasses back up on his nose as normal as he used to. This is good to see. Yesterday, Brenda saw Matthew lift his torso up off the bed, reach over with his left arm to his right leg and kind of curl up. This is another new action she hasn't seen him do before.

There are plenty of challenges in caring for Matthew. It's like a "wrestling match" all day long keeping Matthew away from the tubes and devices that he's attached to. Anything that is tight and constricting is very uncomfortable for brain trauma patients and they try to get rid of the discomfort. Unfortunately, those things are necessary for them to have attached to them. By the end of the day, Matthew's caregivers are exhausted trying to keep up with him.

A member of one of Pastor Kurz' congregations has asked me to include the following information for anyone interested in helping out with the Kurz' finances:

Holy Cross and St. John's Lutheran Churches are sponsoring a Free Will Donation Fund Raising Dinner on Sunday, April 23 from 11 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. The dinner will be held in the Lutheran School Gym, Cole Camp and will feature smoked pork and turkey, sides and desserts. A silent auction will also be held. The proceeds raised will go to Matthew's special needs with matching funds available from Thrivent Chapter 7792 and Holy Cross Chapter 7792.

Pastor Kurz and Brenda want all of you to know they pray you have a blessed and joyful Easter. They want you to know how much they appreciate all the words of encouragement for them and the prayers you lift up for Matthew on a regular basis. The following hymn brings great comfort to them and they would like to share it with you:

I know that my Redeemer lives!
What comfort this sweet sentence gives!
He lives, he lives, who once was dead;
He lives, my ever-living head!

He lives triumphant from the grave;
He lives eternally to save;
He lives exalted, throned above;
He lives to rule His Church in love.

He lives to grant me rich supply;
He lives to guide me with His eye;
He lives to comfort me when faith;
He lives to hear my soul's complaint.

He lives to silence all my fears;
He lives to wipe away my tears;
He lives to calm my troubled heart;
He lives all blessings to impart.

He lives to bless me with His love;
He lives to plead for me above;
He lives my hungry soul to feed;
He lives to help in time of need.

He lives, my kind, wise, heav'nly friend;
He lives and loves me to the end;
He lives, and while He lives I'll sing;
He lives, my Prophet, Priest, and King!

He lives and grants me daily breath;
He lives, and I shall conquer death;
He lives my mansion to prepare;
He lives to bring me safely there.

He lives, all glory to His name!
He lives, my Savior, still the same;
What joy this blest assurance gives;
I know that my Redeemer lives!

Lutheran Worship 264/The Lutheran Hymnal 200

Peace be with you,
Rachel Asburry

Prayer Request - 4/11/06

2006-04-11T08:34:00.000-07:00

Please lift Matthew up in prayers to our heavenly Father. The doctors are very concerned that Matthew is still in Stage IV (see Update - 3/24/06 for explanation of Stage IV). They believe by now he should be out of Stage IV and less aggitated. They are giving him medication to help calm him down, but it is not helping like it should.

Please pray that our Lord guides the doctors to quickly find what is causing Matthew to be so aggitated (whether it be one of the many medications he is on or something else) and that our heavenly Father heals Matthew so that he may move to the next stage of progression.

This is a very serious turning point and we urgently request your prayers.

"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling. . . The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress." Psalm 46:1-3, 7

Rachel Asburry

Update - 4/10/06

2006-04-10T07:05:00.000-07:00

Good morning!

The big news over the weekend is Matthew is working very hard to make sounds and form words. On Friday he was able to make a very clear "H" and "N" sound when trying to saying "Hi" or "No". He was able to make the consonant sounds very clear. It takes alot of effort on Matthew's part and a great deal of concentration to get the sounds out. He has to go through every little step of getting his mouth and tongue in the right position - things we take for granted every minute of every day.

He continues to have different pitches in his moans and on Saturday he was saying "la la ..."

Another major task the therapists are working on with Matthew is to have him hold his head up like we do. Most of the time when he's in the wheelchair or sitting on the edge of the bed, his head hangs down and the "wonderful" view Matthew has is of the floor! It takes a lot of effort for him to lift his head up and to hold it up. On Sunday, his mom and girlfriend were excited that he held his head up for almost a whole minute and looked at both of them. What beautiful sights they are! Brenda can tell that Matthew LOVES to be outside because he holds his head up alot more when he's outside.

During one of his meals on Sunday Matthew grabbed the towel that was laying on his chest that Brenda keeps handy to catch any spills. He lifted it up and wiped his own mouth and Brenda said it looked so natural. Some of his natural habits are starting to show!

We also know that Matthew doesn't like to be left alone. He wails at night and the nurses have to go in and calm him down to let him know he's not alone and they are nearby.

Hope you all have a blessed Holy Week as we approach the time when we remember our Lord's suffering and death to save us from our sin and his victory over death through his resurrection so that we too will have eternal life.

"Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his stripes we are healed." Isaiah 53:4-5

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother

Update - 4/5/06 follow-up

2006-04-06T06:45:00.000-07:00

Brenda just called me and said the orthopedic doctor decided not to take the loose screw from the plate out yesterday. He decided to give Matthew's incision a little longer to heal on it's own. If it doesn't close up in the next 3-4 weeks, then they will go in and remove all nine screws and the plate because the bone has healed just fine. Head trauma patients' bodies will over produce bone when they are healing and that has happened for Matthew - one area of the collarbone is larger than the other side. No cause for concern about that at this time.

Brenda also said that Matthew did something very normal yesterday that was exciting to see: he pushed his glasses up on his nose by himself. Once again we rejoice in the little things!

God be with you this day!

Rachel Asburry

Update - 4/5/06

2006-04-05T20:55:00.000-07:00

This morning Matthew had one of the screws removed from the plate that is holding his collarbone in place. The screw had come loose and was making it difficult for the incision to heal. The hope is that the incision to put the plate in for his collarbone will fully heal shut now that the loose screw is gone.

Matthew continues to be very aggitated and because of it, he has been moved closer to the nurses' station so they can keep a close eye on him. Just remember that the aggitation is part of the process for the brain in its recovery.

In answer to a question in another comment made to the previous update, several scans were made of Matthew's brain earlier on right after the accident. These scans showed red tiny dots all over the brain. Those red dots were broken blood capillaries. As Matthew's head was jostled back and forth in the accident, neurons that were once connected are now broken. Those connections are permanently severed, but the brain has an amazing ability to make new pathways for messages to be transmitted. So, nothing is 100% certain in diagnosing what Matthew will be able to do in the future. So far the doctors are very pleased with Matthew's progress and because he was in tremendously good health before the accident - he didn't drink, didn't smoke, is young, was taking good Shaklee nutrition :) - he has a lot of plusses on his side for his body to heal and regain alot of his former abilities. As I've mentioned before, I'm definitely not a medical professional and am trying to explain this as best I can from a lay person's perspective and from what Brenda has communicated to me that she is told by the doctors. Let's applaud Matthew's successes and encourage the Kurz family when things are rough and try not to spend time figuring out the diagnosis and future which is very uncertain at this time. We'll leave that in God's almighty hands!

On the bright side, Matthew is now able to sip from a cup, rather than have liquids spoon-fed to him. He is also lifting one leg a bit and moves it in a position on the bed that has always been a natural way for him to lay. Matthew also has different pitches in his moans and sounds that he makes. He's progressing from the monotone sound to pitches and it sounds to Brenda like he's trying very hard to work toward talking again.

On Andrew's 16th birthday Matthew tried really hard to say something, but couldn't get it out. He squeezed Andrew's hand and finally gave him the "thumbs up" sign to wish Andrew "Happy Birthday". Speaking of Andrew's birthday, he had a WONDERFUL day. He was thrilled with all the birthday wishes, funny cards and fantastic celebration.

As I reported this weekend, Brenda's father, Norbert Kaiser fell several times and was taken to the V.A. hospital in Columbia. It was finally determined that Norbert had a light stroke. He was confused at times and was very much like his grandson - pulling out tubes! He's doing better and they will probably release him to return to the nursing home in Cole Camp where he will undergo therapy and work to regain strength and mobility.

Thank you for your continued prayers for Matthew and the Kurz family. And I personally thank you for the encouraging words that you express in comments of how you appreciate the updates in the blog. I'm glad to know that it is of great benefit to those who know and love the Kurz family. My husband and I are blessed to be able to help in this way.

Rachel Asburry
Matthew's godmother